Post Date December, 03 2023
One thing I have always felt awkward is that my husband and I have been in love for six years and married for four years, and have a son. Now we both have a factory, and the customers have a lot of income. My mother-in-law is fifty-three years old this year and basically comes to the factory to help us every day. My family is kind-hearted. But I know that my mother-in-law is very strong and can't tolerate my husband to let me hold the checkout money. Therefore, my husband let my mother-in-law hold all the money. I am very unhappy.
My husband told me that his father died early, and his mother had been used to being the family. Let him continue to be the family. Although I didn't want to give it to my mother-in-law, I didn't mean to work as usual. Since last year, I found that my mother-in-law hid private money, and he loved to lie, saying that her daughter always gave him money, and I also knew that her daughter paid the loan every month, and had to support two children. How can I always give her free money!
I want to ask Brother Shan, can we make money together with our mother-in-law and tell her not to let him put his private money? Why is the only son hiding? I'm afraid she will give our money to her daughter. I'm a careless person. I don't want to give up if I know it. The more I carry it behind my back, the more I don't want to pay them. How can I solve this problem?
reply:
First of all, we need to confirm whether your mother-in-law has a share in the factory you run and whether she has invested money in it? How many? If she invests a lot of money, it is normal for her to participate in it, and it is not impossible for her to manage money. However, the premise is that since we are operating together, although we are a family, we also need to make clear account, because it involves money, which is easy to cause conflicts and conflicts of interest. This task should be completed by your husband and your mother-in-law. If your mother-in-law doesn't invest in the factory, but just plays the role of housekeeper as an elder, and comes to the factory every day to help, then you can discuss with your husband, let her do the mother-in-law's work, and tell your mother-in-law that it is better not to participate too much. After all, there is still a daughter-in-law, you should consider the feelings of the daughter-in-law, try not to manage the money, and let your husband manage the money. If the old man can't wait and is willing to come to the factory to help, he can pay the old man monthly. Or it's really hard to say. You can also find an excuse to say that the factory needs to develop, establish a financial system, and hire full-time accountants to manage it.
In general, as a daughter-in-law, you can't talk to your mother-in-law directly about this matter, including the matter of your mother-in-law's private money. Try not to talk to your husband. You just discuss with your husband whether he can take charge of the factory and satisfy your inner balance.
In fact, I think that if your mother-in-law has the ability to be the head of the family, let her take charge of it. I think you and your husband are not unclear about the general income of the factory. As long as the general accounts are correct, your mother-in-law can hide some private money and give it to her daughter. Anyway, she doesn't give it to anyone else. You can just turn a blind eye to it and pay less attention to it. If this causes family discord and conflicts, which affects the overall situation, it will lose out on the small.
Weigh it carefully to see if the situation in your family can be easily settled, and then make a relatively safe decision.
