Post Date December, 03 2023
I believe many couples have this kind of confusion, even if they don't have any emotions or simply live a plain life together for some irreversible reason. Go ahead, feel dull and waste your life; Leaving, I feel that I have not yet fallen away, but instead silently accepted this way of life.
Is it true that the two of them have no relationship at all? Neither. Some of them are more tied together by family ties or another indescribable emotion, living the same life as other couples every day, eating and sleeping together, and then each busy, either brushing their phones or watching TV. The feeling is like being in the library, strangely quiet, as if nobody knows anyone, and everyone seems very busy. Sometimes two people get intimate together, which can be considered to solve their physiological needs. Even having sex is an absent-minded appearance, with a strong desire to quickly complete the task and mechanically operate it.
Of course, many people cannot understand that such a life is not at all interesting, how can it continue? As the couples involved, although they also realized that this kind of life was not normal, they did not feel it and gradually fell in love with it. They did not feel any harm.
Such couples are usually the least likely to divorce. After all, they can't find a reason for divorce and they don't dislike each other. During the working hours during the day, people are busy and may not even remember to call or send messages to each other. Even if there is contact, it is mostly due to problems with parents or children... The probability of this happening is very high, and I believe many couples around everyone are living the same way, but you don't know, and even they themselves are not aware of it. But they have come year by year without any significant changes.
Another situation is that they have no feelings for each other, but neither of them wants a divorce. No matter what the reason, they just want to continue like this. At least in the eyes of outsiders, their marriage is not a problem, and it may even be mistaken for a model of happy marriage. Having no emotions and living a seemingly detached life for a will that one does not want to violate is also a helpless choice for some couples. Many readers have left me messages saying that they just don't want to get divorced. Although the other person makes me feel uncomfortable, they just don't want to get divorced. What should I do in this situation? When I used to accept submissions, I often received topics that I didn't like, but for the generous fee, I insisted on accepting them. However, the subsequent writing process was very painful. It was really uncomfortable for cows to press their heads without drinking water, but in the end, I submitted the manuscript within the specified time. Over time, I always receive topics that I don't like or are not good at, and I can always complete them on time. Although I am extremely reluctant in my heart, I still put up with it for those few dollars, and in the end, the writing becomes smoother and smoother, and I am now very proficient. However, I still can't write articles that are too professional, such as sports or chemical engineering. Even with high fees, I can't write them. After all, these industries are too far away from me, and I don't have the courage to guarantee that I can write them. This is the same as marriage, but marriage is easier than writing articles that you don't like to write. After all, the person you dislike now still loved very much at the beginning, otherwise you wouldn't have married them either. After all, there was still a good time, but it's just that the other person has done something that makes it difficult for you to accept now. If you don't want a divorce and still want to continue living, then adjust your heart to accept the reality. After all, the reality is not too bad, otherwise you cannot continue with the other party. If the other party's actions tear your heart and lungs when you think about them, I believe you will not consider the need to continue, unless you are a fool.
Since you want to tolerate the other party, you must forgive yourself from the bottom of your heart, forgive yourself for being dissatisfied with the present, and this is also an opportunity for yourself. Don't rush to conclusions. After a period of time, if you still feel like your teeth are itching, it's better to divide them. If you think about it after a period of time and your heart doesn't feel so uncomfortable anymore, it means you have forgiven yourself. If you feel a sense of collapse whenever you think about it and still want to continue living, then you are too foolish.
Actually, it's easy to separate or continue. If you feel good, continue, if you don't feel good, separate, there aren't many reasons. If you must have a reason, just one reason is enough. Whether you're happy or not, that's the standard.
