Post Date December, 02 2023
Not all breakups between lovers or couples are caused by emotional breakdown, but there are many people in life who still cherish old relationships years later. Perhaps they can bury the lost love deep in a corner of their hearts, so as not to affect the new marriage and love. But what cannot be avoided is the possibility of encountering a previous lover in a certain situation. So, how should we deal with this recurring scene?
1、 Treat people with sincerity. It includes two aspects: treating your current spouse with sincerity and treating your former lover with sincerity.
To be honest with one's spouse mainly means to honestly tell one's partner about the "love" they once had. You should know that everyone's marriage and love cannot be a one-time success. It's natural that not saying it can make people feel like you have a false heart.
After both spouses meet with sincerity, what kind of "sincerity" should they put into their past lovers?
1. In front of an old person, say 'bride'.
That is to say, when talking to an old lover, one often mentions their spouse and should talk more about their strengths. Even if there are many disagreements with their spouse, they should not expose them too much, making the former lover feel that your love is steadfast and unbreakable.
2. Talk more about idle matters and remember less.
Meeting a former lover inevitably evokes memories of past happiness or pain, which is human nature. But it is necessary to stop at a moderate pace and talk more about the gains in life and work after parting, even if it is a trivial remark. Even if this conversation has no meaning, it is also a spiritual comfort for both parties.
3. Leave the truth behind and start from scratch.
In fact, many old lovers do not have the intention of revisiting their romantic dreams or specific purposes when they meet. They just want to meet and chat, which will not fundamentally affect the families of both parties. In this situation, there is no need to be on guard, and such a meeting has a beautiful meaning.
But many people come prepared to meet their old lovers, especially when some things are tricky: the former lover has divorced, but your family is very happy, perhaps he or she has no intention of being a "third party".
But I still want to get something from you, and you won't forget the old love, but I don't want to betray my current spouse and fall into deep contradictions. In this situation, one should force oneself to think more about their spouse, their children, or simply avoid the "deadly" environment.
2、 Mutual understanding. It also includes two aspects: mutual understanding between spouses and mutual understanding with former lovers.
There is a true story where a man and a woman may not marry because of love, but gradually develop feelings in their shared life after marriage and give birth to a son. Both parties felt that there was still a shadow behind this happiness, which was that the woman had seriously and truly loved someone before marriage, and had parted hands due to family reasons. Faced with the fact that her former lover had been unmarried, the woman felt that this was an unforgivable sin she had committed.
For a period of time, the wife's mood was very low, and the wise husband had guessed eight or nine points. In his questioning, his wife only revealed that she had met her former lover and shed tears in the face of their downfall.
What made her even more uneasy was that her ex lover often called her. The husband sighed and said, 'If he sees you again, you can have a good conversation with him.'. I believe I will become good friends with him! "The husband added specially.
The husband's understanding deeply moved the wife. If she still had a little whim in the past, now she feels that she cannot be ashamed of her husband no matter what. So, during the re appointment with her former lover, she spoke confidently about the changes in her psychological journey.
It indicates that it is impossible for them to restore their old friendship. Her sincerity has exchanged for the understanding of the former lover and awakened their desire to choose a new partner. And she really made two men friends.
(Intern Editor: Wu Weijie)
