Post Date December, 03 2023
I knew him when I was in junior high school. He was a huge fan in the class at that time. All the girls liked him, so did I. I haven't expressed my feelings. I don't think I have much chance. I haven't had a girlfriend just now. After work, I met Gang again at a classmate party. He took the initiative to chat with me. What's more, he started chasing me. I loved him for many years and soon fell into the trap. We got married after dating for one year, and soon had a lovely son. But after having a child, I just stopped touching me. I was busy taking care of the child, and didn't think much. When the child was 4 years old, he suddenly said that he wanted to talk to me one day, and said to me, "I am gay, I like men, and I married you just to have a child. My son is not short of money, and you should make a price more easily, I only want a child." I was really confused at that time. I didn't believe this was true, but I just made a decision. I also said that because the child needed his mother most before he was 3 years old, so I kept the marriage. I really wanted to cry without tears, Don't understand what you have done wrong.
"Same wife" is the wife of homosexuals. Homogamy is a phenomenon with the most Chinese characteristics, which is rarely seen in any other country in the world, because homosexuals in other countries are either celibate, or cohabit with the same sex, or marry with the same sex, and rarely enter heterosexual marriage. The reason for this difference is that the Chinese culture's concept of "unfilial piety has three causes, and no offspring is great" emphasizes marriage and childbirth. Many gay men marry women under pressure and have children.
Many gay men have stable jobs and incomes, and they still maintain male relationships after marriage. In order to stop being urged by their families and get a superficial peace, they regard their family and their wives as the shield of public opinion, thus giving birth to the special vulnerable group of "same-wife". The experience of these "same wives" is often unknown, and they are suffering from the emotional and physical double torture in their marriage life. When married, most people do not know their husband's true sexual orientation, and some husbands themselves cannot confirm or admit their homosexual orientation. Bound by traditional culture and concepts, most "same-wives" often choose to suffer silently when they know the truth that their husbands are "gay".
It is reported that there are 20 million gay men in China, and 80% of them will marry heterosexual women. They are "same-wife", up to 16 million people. The phenomenon of same-wife is the most distinctive phenomenon in China. "same-wife" not only can not get the satisfaction of sexual life, but also suffer from neglect, indifference and domestic violence.
(Editor in charge: Mei Ye)
