Only when a person is in an appropriate psychological state will they respond to a certain intimate behavior of the opposite sex. Let's explore how sexual desire arises, in order to avoid the reckless act of "shaving one's head and being picky".
What drives us to have sexual desire are those seemingly familiar movements, eyes, and expressions. That is to say, a certain expression, behavior, or even a certain smell or voice can evoke memories of our childhood and awaken the emotions that have already been hidden in our hearts.
When the words and behaviors of a certain opposite sex awaken our 'fuzzy memories', we will be lit up and lust will burn. This almost crazy love is inexplicable by reason. Some people insist on finding a reasonable explanation for this crazy impulse, so they try their best to find advantages from their loved ones, and even fabricate some advantages for them. This is a bit ridiculous.
Sometimes, after a 'flash of light' in front of us, we turn a blind eye to the opposite sex. Because in lust, idealized colors are strong. In order to avoid disappointment, some people would rather choose never to get them.
When the object we admire exhibits inappropriate words and actions that undermine their beautiful image in our hearts, our lust will also extinguish and our sexual impulses will disappear without a trace. That is to say, if the initial good impression is not strongly supported by other aspects, we will quickly realize that it is just an illusion and there is no need to further develop it.