Post Date December, 03 2023
Since ancient times, there has been a relatively special form of marriage, which is the old husband and young wife. As the name suggests, it refers to the husband being too old, while the wife is too young, resulting in a significant "age difference". In real life, there are many examples of old husbands and young wives. Some people live happily, while others will face unhappy breakups.
From the perspective of emotional harmony, an old man and a young wife are not "abnormal", but how can we maintain this kind of marital life? Experts point out that elderly couples and young wives need to do a good job of psychological counseling in order to maintain a stable marriage.
Premarital Psychological Counseling for Old Husbands and Young Wives
Due to the inherent shortcomings of the old husband and young wife type marriage, pre marital psychological counseling is particularly important. Pre marital psychological counseling is actually a pre marital psychological examination combined with training in marital interaction skills.
Psychological examination is a psychological assessment of marital expectations, sexual expectations, conflict resolution methods, and money management methods. Through these assessments, couples can further understand each other's personality traits, strengths, and weaknesses. When differences in concepts and methods of handling problems have not yet caused conflicts, make sufficient preparation and coordination first.
On the basis of such a physical examination, one also needs to learn communication skills between spouses, ways to solve conflicts, and so on. Through these studies, the two can maximize their strengths and avoid weaknesses in future marriage, reducing conflicts and friction.
Psychological Regulation of Old Husbands and Young Wives
If the old man and young wife have problems after marriage, it is also normal because such a combination carries high systemic risks.
The deterioration of marital relationships is generally manifested through various negative emotions such as disappointment, dissatisfaction, anger, and resentment. Due to the control of these negative emotions, couples can no longer solve problems rationally. Counselors can use methods such as "arousing old emotions" or rationalizing dissatisfied behaviors to alleviate conflicts between both parties. When the rationality of both parties regains its dominant position, let both parties propose specific requirements for improving the relationship.
Of course, if the conflict between the two parties is already deep and they do not want to maintain this marriage, ending the marriage is not necessarily a solution. But as long as both parties want to continue, they must work together to coordinate in order to make the marriage happy.
The extraordinary nature of old husbands and young wives requires them to spend more time and energy managing this marriage. As long as both parties are willing to put in more effort than ordinary couples to coordinate with each other, the marriage of old husbands and young wives can also have happiness.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
