Post Date December, 03 2023
The long blind date process is a kind of self-accumulation
Recently, Lu, the post-80s generation, is ready to participate in a new round of blind dates. For her, who has been through many battles, it is not a problem how to make up, dress, talk and behave during the blind date, but every blind date has no result. "Every time, it is like walking through the stage. I can know the result as soon as I see the other party, but I still go there every time." Lu seems to be used to it. The 2009 Survey Report on the Marriage and Love Status of Chinese People, jointly released by the All-China Women's Federation China Marriage and Family Research Association and other institutions, pointed out that giving up has become a habit for the leftover women to date. During the blind date, it was vaguely felt that the other party might not be satisfied with themselves, and 71.2% of women chose to give up.
"Although I haven't found a target yet, I still have harvest in the process; She no longer uses jeans and baggy clothes to cover up blindly, but learns to use different clothes to promote her strengths and avoid her weaknesses. Lu also said with a smile: "I heard that there are many training courses in Shanghai that are specially designed for people who are suitable for marriage. I am interested in etiquette and housework." For these, Lu seems to be more interested than marriage.
Marriage is not the only goal
Modern people are demanding more and more of themselves, both inside and outside. Marriage is only a goal, and enriching oneself is the key. Many people have a very rational attitude towards marriage. Being busy with blind date and marriage seems to be a superficial phenomenon. More people enjoy their own life in the process.
American gender experts believe that in the process of finding a partner, we should maintain a positive attitude and persevere. As long as you pay attention to one person every day, look at him or her and smile, then there may be your lifelong partner among the people who pay attention every day. However, if you put too much attention and effort into this matter, you may no longer have your own life and independent thoughts.
In psychology, there is an inverse U-shaped relationship between the motivation of doing things and the possible results. You can't do things without hard work, but if you have too strong a purpose, you will often fail. Only 70% of your strength is the best strength. A person's life is rich and full, which naturally produces a magnetic field that attracts the opposite sex.
To really find a good destination, understand what you really need, and clarify your position is the most important. Maintaining a certain degree of self will make you more attractive.
