Post Date December, 03 2023
In real life, we often see that the emotional foundation of the relationship between husband and wife is very good, but there are some problems in mutual communication and communication, which affect the relationship between them. It can be seen that a good marriage requires good communication.
The so-called communication means that through mutual verbal conversation, both parties understand each other's thoughts, feelings and intentions, eliminate misunderstandings and live together. However, due to the fact that couples have lived together for a long time, they often think that there are some things that two people need not speak too clearly, and the other party should understand and understand. In fact, the other party is often half-understanding and guessing, and the result causes unnecessary misunderstanding and unhappiness.
For example, the living conditions of middle-aged and elderly female comrades are better now, and they like to dress up, especially in the hope of getting her husband's frequent response to her dress, while the husband thinks that the "old husband and old wife" has been seen for decades, and there is nothing to look good at. So, disdain, or say: what do people dress up when they are old, like an old goblin. As a result, one party feels that the other party does not understand himself, and some people even feel that they are abandoned by the other party. Their emotional communication with each other is decreasing, and their feelings are cold and distant. Therefore, the more people know themselves, the more often they need to talk, express their meaning and share their feelings.
Couple communication has three functions
1. The communication between husband and wife is to transmit information to each other. Let the other party know what has happened. Both parties face what has happened together and feel that husband and wife are one.
2. Ask for and express opinions, and discuss ways to solve the problem.
3. Another important function of the communication between husband and wife is to let the other party know your feelings for him at any time, and express your appreciation, love and affection so as to maintain and consolidate the relationship between husband and wife.
Necessary conditions for couples to communicate
1. The premise of communication in the family must be equality, mutual respect, mutual independence and irreplaceable, which is the basic condition of good communication. If you think the other party is subordinate to you and put yourself above the other party, then you can't communicate with each other.
2. Communication should not ignore the personalities of both sides. Sometimes the lack of communication between two people is related to their personality. Some people are born to dislike using words to express their opinions. In addition, they are not confident to stick to their opinions. Especially when they are strong and weak, the weak will be stopped by the other party as soon as they speak. Over time, they are unwilling to express their opinions. There are also couples who can't communicate with each other because of the smell of fire medicine when they start talking.
3. Communication requires interaction. We say that communication is the exchange of information, and we hope to get feedback. If you observe carefully, you will find that there are some words that couples don't know how many times to say in a day, such as "the weather is really good today", "the floor is a little dirty", "the food is so good today", and so on. If the response to such statements is just a hum, or a nod, or even no response. The speaker will feel left out and not respected. In the long run, there will be obstacles to communication and feelings. Even a negative answer is much better than no answer. Because couples always have different understandings, the purpose of communication is to tell each other how they feel, so even a negative reply or negative opinion is necessary.
Mutual understanding and support between husband and wife is the cornerstone of a person's career success and life happiness. However, this understanding comes from communication, which is an art. Couples can obtain endless pleasure from good communication, make the family a happy and comfortable "base camp", ease the tension caused by the rapid pace of society, and cultivate energy to meet the challenges of stressful work. Therefore, we need to learn how to communicate.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
