Post Date December, 03 2023
Why do some men, when looking at the one-night stand, just want to satisfy his sexual desire, and then go their separate ways? Maybe in their eyes, it is desire but not love. So how do men distinguish love from lust? Next, follow Xiao Bian to find out.
Secrets of both sexes: men distinguish love and desire in this way
We must have heard the following statement more than once: for example, love has "rules". It must be "this way" (never "that way") to get Cupid's favor; If you want to cultivate and let the seeds of love grow, women must behave like women, and men must also behave like men; People have to restrain some instinctive thoughts or behavioral tendencies to get along with each other more happily, and so on. In terms of love and sexual behavior, some concepts are deeply rooted in people's hearts. But are these views scientific? Neuroimaging research has cracked such rumors from a unique intuitive perspective.
Is love just an emotion?
Kindergarten teachers teach children to classify "love", "anger", "sadness" and "surprise" as emotions. This is the same as many poems and songs. However, anyone who has experienced "love" knows that "love" is not as fleeting as other emotions. Neuroscientists have discovered through neuroimaging that love is more of a motive - just like eating, drinking and making love.
Helen Fisher, an evolutionary biologist who studied "love" at Rutgers University in the United States, realized that love is a strong physiological process: think about those feelings of blushing, heartbeat, sweating palms and restlessness! Fischer found out the specific area in the brain corresponding to love, and there are areas related to sex and attachment nearby, but the three are not coincident. According to this, Fischer concluded that love is not only the motive for breeding offspring, but also the adhesive to help people connect closely.
Men want to do, women want to love?
This is a widely spread Martian legend - people often think that men and women want different things from their relationships: men only want to enjoy their bodies, while women want deeper, more meaningful and longer relationships. Although there has been a lot of evidence against this view, many people still believe it.
However, scientific research on the brain shows that in terms of sexual behavior, the difference between the same sex is even greater than that between the opposite sex. Moreover, there is no gender difference in brain imaging of love (i.e., the type and area of brain activity when people see pictures of their loved ones). This result, together with epidemiological and other research data, shows that men and women have sex for the same reason. It seems that the saying "men want to do, women want to love" needs to be reconsidered.
Are love and hate two extremes?
Or go back to the "mood" table in the kindergarten - "love" and "hate" are considered to be two opposite extremes. Of course, it seems to be true. However, Semir Zeki, one of the pioneers in the field of neuroimaging of "love", decided to try to find the neuroimaging of "hate" in the brain.
As a result, he found, and when he saw that specific circuits in the brain were "lit", he also found that "love" and "hate" corresponded to common key areas in the brain. Zeki admits that this may be because many subjects think about their ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend when they hate. However, the study of brain activity strongly supports the old saying that "love and hate are only a thin line apart".
Pornography only attracts men's eyes?
The human brain seems to be born with a special call to pornography. Thomas James, a neuroscientist at the Kinsey Institute of Indiana University, said that the brain response caused by pictures containing sexual stimuli was two to three times stronger than any other type of pictures he had used, and this phenomenon was not limited to men. When women face sexy pictures, their brain imaging is also as bright as the glittering Christmas tree.
Researchers at the Kinsey Institute found that when appreciating sexy pictures, the activities of the male and female brains were different. The main researcher Heather Rupp said that the activated parts of the male and female brains were different according to the specific pictures. However, in addition, both men and women said that these pictures were equally provocative and the fixation time was basically the same - which means that women still have a certain level of appreciation for visual sexual stimulation.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)
