Post Date December, 02 2023
My wife has an affair, what should I do? She often stays with her first love and sometimes stays up all night. Should I divorce her? Now that I argue every day, I feel like I can't bear it anymore and have been greatly insulted. I was originally suffering from depression and have been fine for almost a few years, but now I feel like I've had another attack and it's difficult to control my medication. I feel very hopeless. I have a mental disability, second level, can I get a divorce?
I'm almost unable to work now. I have two children, and if they get divorced, I don't know if it's okay to give them both. Now I'm really useless, and I'm very desperate. I often struggle to sleep all night, and the pain is unbearable. Why don't you just stab me so that I don't feel so uncomfortable? What should I do?
reply:
Hello, first of all, I apologize for the delay in responding due to the large number of letters. Please understand. I feel very sorry for your situation, but it seems that I can't help you much. I can only give you some encouragement mentally. I hope you can still hold on at critical moments, control your emotions well, and give yourself more confidence.
From what I know, a second level mental disability can be negotiated for divorce. If you really feel hopeless about this marriage and cannot bear the mental stimulation of your wife's betrayal, then follow your own heart. Just, you need to understand, what if your own survival is facing difficulties after divorce? If you lose your job and your source of income, who will take care of you? So, this is a practical issue that you must consider. I am not sure if the country currently provides corresponding care for your mental disability. You can consult with relevant departments, such as asking the local community and welfare institutions. As for the children, if you want to hand them over to your wife after divorce, it may require negotiation. If negotiation cannot be reached, it can be resolved through legal means.
Of course, from an immediate perspective, I think the most important thing for you is to stabilize your emotions and not be overly pessimistic. You should know that anyone's marriage will inevitably have problems, even those healthy people, including wealthy and famous celebrity families, are not also a lot of marriage and love problems? So, there's no need to cause yourself too much pain. I suggest you talk to your wife and see if she was fooled by her ex boyfriend on a whim? After all, you still have two children, and if you can restore the integrity of your marriage, it's best not to end up in the divorce stage. Any problems in your marriage can be resolved by finding a solution, and it's not too late to make a decision when it's really irreparable.
