My sister and brother have been criticized for their love for me, and it was not easy to get married, but my wife beat me in the face with cheating

My wife is three years older than me. In the eyes of others, we are the roles of sister and brother. I would not think that we are legal husband and wife. I have made a lot of efforts for this relationship. My wife didn't go to college, and went out after graduating from high school. In terms of economy, she is very independent. We met through online chat. During the online chat, she told me her story, which was as sincere and natural as an old friend.

At that time, I was still at school, and I couldn't wait to meet her when I graduated. She was mature, beautiful, and independent, which was my favorite type. When I first met, I was still nervous. Although I made many video calls, I was a little uncomfortable when I saw real people. After getting familiar with her, we lived together. She set foot in the society early and taught me a lot of principles of life. At that time, I was very dependent on her.

One year later, I worked steadily and took her home to see her parents. I wanted them to witness our love. I was opposed by my parents, relatives and friends for the first reason: I know people on the Internet, which is not reliable; The second reason is that she is older than me. Her parents are afraid that she will control me in the future and that I will not be filial. I tried to persuade my parents to marry her. After marriage, she added a daughter to me, and then she met her husband and raised her son at home. Life was very comfortable and flat.

My wife takes good care of my family. However, with the passage of time, she was upset about the current situation, and even used the way she fell in love with me to chat with her lover online. She made an appointment with her online lover and opened a room, all of which I learned from their chat records. I followed him and caught him in bed face to face. She cried like a tearful person. I didn't sympathize with her at all. For her sake, I almost turned against my parents. Now she treats me like this. How can I face those who want to see my jokes?

She apologized and repented, but what could it be? Crying about her difficulties over the years, guarding my family and taking care of my children, and being pointed at by others, she was aggrieved and depressed, and only then thought of this way to release herself. She knew that she was sorry for me and hoped that I could give her a chance to reform.

I can't accept it. I haven't given her an answer. Don't show her dirty linen to others. She is so lucky that she even confides her grievances to outsiders. The affair that caused her to cheat is known to everyone. Isn't that hitting me in the face? I really don't know where the wise girl went and how she became so ignorant now. What should I do?

Reply from the consultant:

A person who has been empty for a long time will become lonely and empty, and inexplicably upset, just want to make the dull life more exciting. As a housewife at home, she has no chance to contact outsiders. She can only talk about her depression through the Internet. However, when her heart is stretched out, the probability of derailment is quite high. You don't notice her change, but you are working hard to make money.

The calmer the lake is, the more ripples will appear when the wind blows a little. Like your feelings, it seems flat. When outsiders intervene, it will be difficult to calm down. Then again, your life is not for others to see. One party in the marriage has done something wrong. We should find the reason for it, rather than dwell on it, and find measures to save it, so that we can live better. I hope you can calmly handle this matter and formally face the problems in your marriage.