Post Date December, 02 2023
I have talked with my husband for six years, married for two years, and have a daughter of one year and two months. After falling in love for more than a year, he had a relationship with a new Guangdong girl in our company. He asked me to give him another chance. Finally, I let him choose. He chose me, and I forgave him.
In the third year of his love, he had an affair with another girl. After I found out, he broke up. I broke up angrily, but he didn't agree, and he cried. I forgave him again. It was not until the second half of the sixth year of love that I was pregnant and he was very happy when I got married.
The other day his mobile phone broke down, so he used my mobile phone. The next morning, I saw a text message and opened it. The content said, "Did you get up?" I asked him. He said they had been together for two years, and his friends knew about it. This time I was really angry, and I no longer believed him. I went to the hospital to do the baby myself. When he knew it, he ran to the hospital and refused to do it. He wrote a guarantee, I called her in front of me and told her not to contact again, so I trusted him again.
After I gave birth to the child, they were still secretly contacting, but I never knew. When I was giving birth, the mistress actually took the initiative to add my friend, scolded me on the Internet and deliberately provoked me, saying that her husband loved her. A few days later, when there was only me and my baby in the family, a woman who was dressed in fashion and about my age came to my house. As soon as she entered the door, she scolded me as a junior, called me shameless and robbed her husband!
At that time, I was shocked and extremely angry, so I immediately called my mother-in-law to return home. After my mother-in-law returned home, I told her that she was also surprised, said that she did not know this woman, and asked her how she knew our family. The woman said that she had already returned home with my husband. After listening, my mother-in-law called her husband again, but he didn't dare to go home because he had something wrong. Later, That woman was scolded by my mother-in-law.
My father-in-law and mother-in-law both love me very much. Later, my mother-in-law also called me several times to scold the third. The third bit me back and said I scolded her first. Later, the mistress also called to scold me from time to time. I was very angry and asked for a divorce. My mother-in-law didn't agree. My husband said that he would give me a satisfactory answer. I said that I would trust you for the last time.
In this way, we have been better for more than half a year. Before long, we have a computer at home, and he always runs online in the Internet bar. I didn't care. One day I went to the Internet bar to find him. I saw that they were chatting, and he changed his account. After I read it at that time, I left without saying a word. I went back to get my ID card and bank card and left.
He came back and explained to me that he was very sad when the third child was getting married. He said that he had put it down now and was just making friends with her. I no longer believed it. After I left, he frantically looked for me, and finally found me. He said that he was only focusing on home now, and that we lacked communication. He said that he would tell me what he said in his heart, and let me tell him what I had thought, but I always ignored him.
I contacted him to work in Shenzhen, but he didn't let me go. I was very tired every day. He told his mother-in-law about this matter. She said either let my husband clean out of the house and give me all the children's houses and cars, or live a good life. My husband moved to his uncle to intercede with me again, and let me give him one last chance. He said that he would never contact with her again, nor be a friend, and I said nothing.
A few days ago, the third brother scolded me with my friend and said that I would leave as soon as possible. I asked my husband if he had contacted her again. He said yes, and I showed him what the third brother scolded me. He asked the third brother, who said it was not from her. Every time the third brother scolded me, he would report to the villain first.
Now it's good for my mother-in-law to adjust my relationship with my husband, but it's not as good as before. I don't trust him anymore. As soon as his cell phone rings, I think they will contact again. I asked him to contact her. He didn't give me a password. The more he did, the less I trusted him.
I want to leave. I think my daughter is only one year old. I really don't know what to do? Hold on, I'm not willing. What shall I do?
Expert response:
Marriage can't be treated as a child's play. It's really sad for your husband to "eat the food in the bowl and look at the food in the pot". During the love period, you already know that he is fickle, so you should test him more. Now we have entered the "grave of marriage", leaving only pain. Your mother-in-law can stand on your side, help you deal with foreign enemies together, and put pressure on your husband. This external support system independent of your marriage seems to be effective in a short time, and can also temporarily make your husband taboo. But in the long run, if you only want to rely on mother-in-law's single support to resolve your husband's infidelity, it is "cure the symptoms but not the root cause", Once it comes to the truth that you and your husband fall out because of cheating, your mother-in-law will turn her back instead of helping you. If the mistress has always chosen to fight with you, and your husband doesn't want to fight against you, you don't need to tangle with her. It's better for both of us to end this meaningless marriage and start a new life earlier.
