Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband got on well with his female classmates at the school reunion, and they had a better time together. My husband said that he did not expect to meet again after more than ten years. His classmate divorced with a girlfriend. My husband and others have never treated me like that. When I found out that he was cheating, they had been together for three or four months. I was pregnant at that time. I went back to my mother's house in a fit of anger.
I have been away for three or four months and my family has been asking me to go back. He also admitted his mistake, so I came back with him with a big belly. Also, my eldest son is ten years old this year. When he came back, he found that they were still in contact. I didn't quarrel with him because they still contacted. At first, he admitted his mistake, but later he didn't care. I quarreled with him, ignored me, didn't coax me, and let me cry alone. Now, the third party is married, but they still contact. For a year, we have been fighting or quarrelling. He doesn't care how I feel.
Now that the child is seven months old, we have no husband and wife. We were in the same room, knowing that he was chatting with a third party on WeChat, I pretended not to know. I was afraid that I would make trouble with him, and we were cold again. I didn't look at his mobile phone. Now I don't know what I should do? After ten years of life, why did he treat me so? I secretly saw their chat records. My husband was so affectionate. I felt that I could not get into his heart. I felt that I was too aggrieved. Can I win him back?
reply:
There has always been such a joke about the reunion, which is called the reunion, the reunion, and the separation of a pair is a pair. Some people even think that the reunion has become a hotbed for extramarital affairs. Although this statement may be exaggerated, to be realistic, we can't avoid the fact that some people do have extramarital affairs through classmate gatherings.
Your husband has met old classmates and old friends who haven't seen for many years through the reunion, which will undoubtedly stir up waves in his heart. For anyone, after many years, it is hard to avoid the ups and downs of heart and feelings when recalling those past green and bitter times. The reason why the students' love is so destructive is that they were young and had a simple and beautiful heart, and this kind of beauty is easy to form an indelible brand in the heart, which is hidden in the heart for a long time.
Your husband and this female classmate have had a good time. Obviously, if you touch again after many years, the feelings of first love and the regrets you can't get will inevitably revive. This is a temptation and a test. People who have a mature mentality and a sense of responsibility based on reality have nothing to do with it. However, your husband couldn't resist it. He cheated with this female classmate. At this time, he does not care about your feelings, nor does he care about your pregnancy, and he is always immersed in his own loss. It can be seen that this man lacks rationality, responsibility and responsibility. Of course, he is so intoxicated in this feeling. In addition to his recollection and attachment to the past, he may also really like that female classmate, but he is just tired of you and the existing marriage.
His enthusiasm for his female classmates can last for a year without decreasing, and he is still in contact, even ignoring your existence and connection, and insists on fighting with you without any regret. It can be seen that this man has no respect and care for you in his heart. What's the meaning of maintaining this marriage between you and him? It's really a sad thing. So, you can't just swallow your grievances in your stomach, and there's no need to just sigh and complain. You need to protect your dignity, sit down and have a good talk with him, instead of fighting with him in a fight and cold war posture. Talk with him calmly, ask him what he thinks, is it really not thought of? Let him clarify his attitude. And you should also prepare for the worst. Marriage is like this. Without safety once and for all, who dares to ensure that there will be no changes in your marriage? Just face the reality in front of you.
Of course, if this marriage can be saved, don't let it break up easily; If you can save your husband's heart from cheating, don't give up easily; If this day can go on, dry your tears and let life go on. Do your best. Now, your husband's female classmate has entered the marriage again, which means that she doesn't have any hope for your husband's feelings and future, but just your husband's attachment to others is more wishful thinking. Perhaps, the passage of time will help you to repair your marriage.
