Post Date December, 02 2023
[Reader's Letter]
"I have been married for five years, and I have a mother-in-law and a daughter who is being taken care of by my mother-in-law. My father-in-law has been dead for two years. I am an only child myself, and my mother is a cancer patient. My husband, I, and my father are both working in other places, working together with his sister and husband.". A few days ago, my sister and I were a little unhappy. She had a strong personality and spoke in a way that I really didn't want to listen to. After five years of marriage, his sister was in charge of everything, and I could say that my mother-in-law and sister-in-law would say a lot about every little thing. I was straight forward, and I felt like I could resist everything. Until the other day, I couldn't help but decide not to say a word to my sister-in-law from now on, "Then I didn't say hello to them, including my father, and went home. At the railway station, my husband called me for lunch. I said I was already at the railway station and I decided to go home, so I hung up.".
Right now, I always feel that my husband doesn't pay much attention to me, and even when I call, it's cold and cold. Another biggest problem is that our family has always been short of money and under great pressure. I want you to help me analyze how to continue this life in the future?
[Reply]
Hello, the heavy pressure of life, the triviality of family, and the conflicts among family members can inevitably make a person feel frustrated and even lose confidence in life. Therefore, when we are in a difficult situation, the most important thing is to adjust our mindset, not to be too negative, and not to have no confidence in the future. Gather more positive energy and put less pressure on yourself. Since you and your sister-in-law don't get along well, why do you have to be together? This is how people are. Distance produces beauty. Can't you think of ways to not work together? Because your disagreements with your sister-in-law will naturally affect your relationship with your husband, including the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is not worth the loss. If you have to be together and have no ability to handle your sister-in-law, you should learn to swallow your anger and ignore the interests of the small and consider the overall situation. If you suddenly act like this, of course, it will make your husband feel uncomfortable. Explain and communicate with him privately. With regard to sister-in-law issues, you can also let him come forward to coordinate and solve them. There is no need to force himself to sulk. As an adult, it is better to be flexible in handling issues, Don't try to control your temper and get angry.
