Post Date December, 02 2023
[Question]
I have been married for ten years, and now my marriage has broken down. My heart is hurting and I sincerely ask for your help.
For ten years, we have been living a simple life, until these two years when we always had arguments. During the day, he went to work while I also worked. I had to pick up my children from school and cook at noon, and after dinner, I had to work at night. He always took care of the children at home at night. He always said he was lonely and bored, often secretly opening new accounts to add old lovers, and chatting with nearby people. I couldn't bear his behavior, so I argued. He said he no longer loved me, It's impossible to live for me again, what should I do? I don't want a divorce because I love him and this family.
This year, he partnered with others to invest in a company and started leaving early and returning late. I know that after investing, he will be relatively busy, but there won't be so many things to do. He definitely secretly went to see his lover behind my back. I also switched careers this year and started doing some small business downstairs. I didn't work on shifts day and night. I asked him why he secretly added his old lover, but he said it was boring because he mostly took care of the children at home at night. I don't know why, sometimes I wonder if I have too little companionship with him.
Answer
In marriage, it is often women who can hold onto the mundane and lonely.
Women view the integrity of a family as the achievement of marriage, but little do they realize that marriage with only formal but lacking connotation is like chewing wax for men. Men pursue novelty and variety, and they yearn for "interesting" days, otherwise it would be "too boring". When your time is occupied by work and children, there is no room for him. A year or two, a man may still be able to bear it. Over time, a good man's heart will also become wild.
The previous work intensity and the hard work of household chores will inevitably lead to physical and mental fatigue, and a lack of interest will also greatly affect the relationship between husband and wife. You have made adjustments this year, and the path of emotional recovery has just begun. The accumulated habits he has accumulated are difficult to clear in a single moment. He still has the habit of flirting with women to relieve boredom, and you must find a way to get closer to his heart again. Remember, it's important to deliberately follow him and not have him behind the scenes. As a wife, you should know how to attract your husband. It's not just about companionship day and night, but also about situations where both of you are embarrassed without words.
He blurted out those hurtful words and left them to himself. When you have enough charm and charm, he will turn around and find a treasure at home that must be watched closely.
