Post Date December, 02 2023
I was introduced to him and we have been in love for four years. I am a very conservative woman. At the beginning of our relationship, he and I will not walk on the road hand in hand like normal lovers. Because I always think that I will be a very casual woman. Only after two months of love did I agree with him to hold my hand. I still remember how happy he was when he took my hand for the first time.
In the year after our relationship, we only talked with each other hand in hand. Later, it took us a long time to kiss and hug like normal people. You may think that I am too rigid, but that is the truth. I have always been cautious with him.
In fact, as a man, he doesn't want to do that with me, but my repeated objections have kept him from succeeding. Every time he finishes drinking, he will try to make love with me, but I just can't get over this barrier in my heart. Once again, I was locked in his house by him. I saw that he really wanted to, so I was merciless and obedient. But when he wanted to take off my coat, I was scared to run away.
So I protected myself well before marriage. Last year we got married. I gave myself to him on the night of my wedding because it was really painful for the first time. But think I have let him endure for several years, and now I have no reason to refuse him. So I tried my best to cooperate with him that night.
We do that kind of thing almost every day after marriage. In fact, I have some antipathy after a long time. I always feel that such things are dispensable. But I don't know why his desire is stronger day by day. Every day when he came home, he would toss and turn for a while, but I became more and more disgusted.
This is still the case now. Every time I see his hungry eyes, I even feel a little scared. After thinking for a long time, I decided not to do this anymore. I always felt that I was suffering. I want to divorce him, but I don't know how to talk to him? What do you think I should do?
Reply:
Can you count yourself as a victim of marriage? In fact, your marriage is still very happy. At least there is no threat from the outside world.
Everyone has their own personality, and you may be the kind of woman who can't say how much she loves her feelings? Or the kind of women with relatively cold sexual desire. I think men should have that idea. Your husband needs it too much. But your husband has a stronger need for this.
I don't think you need to think about divorce because of such things. There are many people who are worried about asexual marriage, but in the end they still persist. You are actually very happy, just the opposite of others. I believe there will be a way to solve these problems. You might as well talk to your boyfriend. Every woman's body has a certain limit. It's also OK to let your boyfriend moderate appropriately. I think your boyfriend will understand you.
And I think you must have feelings for him after four years of love with him. It is a little reluctant to ask for divorce because of her husband's excess desire. I hope you can think twice, and I also hope you can be happy!
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
