Post Date December, 02 2023
After my husband and I got married, I became pregnant. My mother-in-law died early and raised a baby at her mother's house. My husband went to work in a first-tier city a thousand miles away from me, and we separated. When the child was three years old, his husband came back to do business. This year, my father passed away, and I was an only child, leaving my mother alone. I took her home to support me. Mom is a diligent person who is very kind to us. She doesn't need us to worry about everything at home, and she manages everything in an orderly manner.
In the first year of my mother's move in, my husband's attitude was relatively good, but it became worse and worse in the future. He does a good job in business, and he also makes many friends, often leading them to drink at home. Every time they finish eating and drinking, the house becomes a mess, and my mother sighs as she cleans up. I see the pain in my eyes and my heart. I think my husband treats his mother like an outsider. In this family, if he earns money and gives us flowers, we should serve him. He used his mother as a nanny, and I became increasingly disappointed with my husband.
"A person's position in the family depends on his contribution to the family.". I asked my mother to help me with my children at home, and I found a job that earned enough money for the three of us. "I stopped asking him for living expenses, and he also felt that I had a strong opinion of him, gradually narrowing down a lot.". Last year, his business crashed and he lost a lot of money. Over the past few years in business, he has developed a habit of being lazy and tasty. The failure of this business has dealt a great blow to him, and he has been addicted to alcohol all day long, and when he gets drunk, he goes crazy.
"I'm very worried that he won't recover, and I have repeatedly encouraged him to start from scratch, but he won't listen at all.". "Next, we kept arguing, and when he was drunk, he even started hitting me.". "Now I'm living on tenterhooks, fearing that his drinking might cause something wrong.". Unable to bear it, I filed for a divorce. Hearing the word "divorce", he sobered up a lot. I offered to say hello to my mother and asked her to advise me not to divorce. I also wrote a guarantee of more than 2000 words.
"But the good times didn't last long, and after two months, I made a mistake again.". The only thing I have now is that I don't put on airs at home anymore, and my attitude towards my mother is slightly relaxed, but it's just that I don't feel up to it. He is becoming less and less attentive to his family. What should I do? Should I divorce? Who can give me an idea.
Reply from the maintenance consultant:
Hello. During the marriage period between men and women, there will always be various conflicts. Your dissatisfaction with your husband began when your mother came home. "He treats your mother badly and disrespects him, and indirectly disrespects you.". Your mother's attitude is also inferiority complex, and she always feels like she's relying on others and acting submissive. This family has a part of you, and she deserves to live here. You should show your parents' mettle, especially for men like your husband who don't understand the general situation.
If you divorce, it will only solve your momentary anger. The next days will not be easy. Lead the mother and child to remarry, or remain unmarried for life, support the elderly, and take care of the children? Careful analysis shows that divorce does not bring you any advantages in life, so it is best not to give up your marriage until it is absolutely necessary. We look at the source of marital conflicts, find solutions to problems, correct our husband's eating habits and laziness, regroup, and live a good life.
