Post Date December, 03 2023
The year 2012 marks the seventh anniversary of my husband's marriage, which may really be a seven-year itch. We have been experiencing various problems since last June. Little conflicts continue, especially with him. He begins to look at me with all sorts of displeasure, cold and violent towards me, and ignores him when speaking, just like I don't exist in the family.
This state of affairs lasted for nearly half a year, and finally we had a big fight on the evening of the 10th of this month. "We are now asexual and loveless. Is it necessary to continue this marriage?"?
"I have a 5-and-a-half year old boy, but I am not willing to give up like this. If I file for divorce first, I will have nothing, not to mention my house, son, and money.". His current behavior and practices are waiting for me to file a divorce first. What should I do? When I think of it, I can't eat or sleep all day.
Ms. Li:
Because of the noise, you have softened your emotions. Ask yourself whether you are afraid of losing this marriage or facing a life without a house and a son with nothing?
If the outcome is frightening and you don't want to face such an outcome, then you need to take practical actions to improve it. Moreover, blindly guessing what the other party thinks with cold violence can only deepen misunderstanding and widen the gap between the two sides. Whether he is waiting for you to propose a divorce is just your guess. Why don't you understand that as long as he hasn't filed for a divorce, there is always a possibility of continuation of your marriage? Therefore, rather than passively waiting for a bad outcome to occur, it is better to take action to improve yourself. Your striving directly affects the outcome. If you do not strive, the result is that you passively accept any outcome.
However, it is obvious that at present there is no way for you to communicate normally. To understand the reasons behind his true thoughts and behavior, a third party needs to intervene and let a counselor act as a bridge between you. It is not easy for a marriage relationship to be concluded and maintained for seven years, and it is not a last resort. Don't go to the step of divorce.
