My husband has taken care of his lover outside. My father loves me and sent me 200000 yuan. When he learned it, he tried to please me

My parents divorced when I was a child. Living in a single-parent family, I know the pain of not having maternal love. My father never mentioned my mother in front of me. He never remarried before he was eighteen. After I became an adult, my father told me that the reason why my mother divorced him was because she hated him for being worthless and ran away with a rich man. I hated her very much at that time, and vowed that when I became a family, I would manage my family well and not hate the poor and love the rich.

At the age of 20, my father found me a stepmother. I don't blame him. He raised me for so many years. He should enjoy his life. After finishing college, my family introduced me to a boyfriend, my present husband. When I met him for the first time, he attracted me with his handsome sunshine. After a brief understanding, I agreed to associate with him. Soon we were engaged, married, and had a baby. Five years passed in a flash.

In the past five years, my husband has been working outside for this family all the year round. We get together less and leave more, and our relationship is getting worse every day. I often think that if the child is not concerned about him, will he not want to enter this family? We have been in love with each other, and now we are unfamiliar and indifferent. I am increasingly disappointed with marriage. Later, I heard through the grapevine that my husband found a lover outside. There was a voice in my heart at that time: Divorce!!!

On second thought, the child is still young, and the divorced husband's family will not let me take it away. In addition, the child grew up in an incomplete family, which is too unfair to him. I was silent and pretended not to know it. Too much, he took the initiative to confess to me that he had a woman outside and asked me what to do? He cheated. What should I do? I really think he has a brain problem. In a fit of anger, I told my father about my situation. He didn't speak. He came to my house the next day and gave me a card with 200000 yuan in it.

Dad said, if it's too late, take the child with you. There are 200000 yuan in the card, part of which is the gift money of the year, and part of which is saved by him. I cried and struggled for several years, but after all, my father was the only relative. With my father's support, I have been thinking about divorce. I want children. I can use this money to hire a good lawyer to seize the custody of children.

I'm still thinking about it. My husband heard the news from somewhere. I guess it was my mother-in-law who overheard my conversation with my father. He quit his job in other places and went home. He took good care of me and my children and planned for the future with me. I relaxed my vigilance, and he asked me to pay some money and do some business, so that he can not go to other places, and we can stay together every day. He was wrong about his cheating. He admitted his mistake to me and hoped that I would forgive him.

When I was about to be convinced by him, I heard the conversation between him and his mother-in-law. Their focus was on the 200000 yuan my father gave me. My heart began to struggle. With money, they realized my existence. Now I'm starting to struggle about whether to divorce. What should I do?

reply:

You were influenced by a single-parent family when you were young. When you faced with your husband's cheating, you wanted to preserve your marriage, give your children a complete home, and choose patience. Your patience will only make those who make mistakes more and more rampant. Most men who are away all the year round can't stand the temptation. Marriage needs two people to maintain. It is too weak to rely on only one person.

He cheated and asked you how to solve it. On the surface, he took your feelings into consideration. In fact, he was trying to test your attitude towards this matter. When he learned that your father gave you money, his first reaction was to make up with you immediately. Such a hypocrite is too scary. Just think, if you forgive him, can you guarantee that he will not change his mind in the future?

If he carries the money under the guise of doing business and is happy, you can't cry. Watch your money and see if he is doing face work. Don't be fooled by him easily. After observing for a period of time, if he is really cheating you, there is no need to continue the marriage. You can live well without him. I wish you happiness.