My husband encouraged me to go back to my mother's house, but there was a motive behind my cheating

After marriage, men are even more disrespectful, and there is nothing wrong with this statement.

I have been married to my husband for over four years, but they always argue. He loves to lie and has no sense of security with him. Just this year, my husband bought a new car and started doing business, and the business was also quite good. Every day, he goes out early and returns late. In the first few days, he even handed me the money, but he didn't mention it for a long time. In the past month, he not only didn't give money to his family, but also posted it. I think it's strange, discuss it with him. Ask him why the money is gone. The two of them started arguing over this matter.

A while ago, he reminded me that I hadn't returned to my mother's house for a long time and asked me to go back and see her when I had time. I happened to want to go back, so I went. As a result, when I returned from my mother's house, I saw that the house was in a mess, the rice in the pot was moldy, and the clothes were still the same as when I went out, unwashed. I knew he must have never stayed at home. Later, while cleaning, I found a note that was an invoice for the restaurant. The date above is the day I return to my mother's house. I asked him where he went that day, but he said he didn't go at home. Because a while ago, it was also because when I came home, I found out that he had a room with someone else, and still haven't explained it to me. So this time I also suspect him of having an affair. Because when he went out, he had nearly a thousand yuan in his hand, but when he came back, it was gone.

I don't think I'm easy either. Since my mother-in-law passed away, I've been taking care of the children at home and taking care of their daily lives. But I haven't complained for a day, and I think it's my own responsibility. I think as long as my husband is responsible for this family, even if it's a bit tiring, I think it's worth it. I am usually very frugal and meticulous, and I have never bought a few good clothes. They are all cheap goods. I also feel like there's something wrong with myself, I've been too strict with him. I don't know what to do or what to do. He is also very disgusted with me now and doesn't want to talk to me. He just wants to stay away from me. What should I do?

Ms. Jiang:

How long has it been since you carefully dressed yourself? How long has it been since I went out to socialize with friends?

When you no longer focus solely on your family and others, and when you start spending your time managing yourself to improve yourself, it's when they start chasing you. Men have a bit of a cheap temper, and the more determined you are, the more he avoids it.

Also, controlling men's money is the right idea, but the wrong approach. His money is earned by him. If you ask for it directly, he will definitely have a problem if you ask for it too many times. There are many ways to make him willingly turn in the money, and further consultation is available if needed. Women need to be smart women to retain men and prevent extramarital affairs.