Post Date December, 03 2023
I got married to a blind date man at the beginning of the year, and they had no sexual experience. Until now, they have not been able to have sexual intercourse successfully. He is not tough enough to enter. Last week, I asked him to tell his mother-in-law to find a way, but he promised me but did not take action. His family is in a hurry to have a child, and I am under a lot of pressure. Today, when my mother-in-law called me, I asked her if she knew about it. She said she didn't know, and then asked me what was going on, so I told her.
At the beginning, he was in a hurry to get married and had no emotional foundation. I also had no experience in dating, and when the parents of both parties had a good conversation, they became confused. When obtaining the certificate, we had a pre marital examination and said we didn't need to obtain a pre marital examination report. If there was no phone notification on the same day, it means we passed the medical examination. He said he didn't receive the phone call, so we went to collect the certificate.
After marriage, I met three times a month in a different place. I stayed in my company's dormitory, but he stayed in his dormitory. It was an hour away and he didn't buy a house. The gift money was purchased according to his family's requirements, which was his pre marital property. Each spends their own money and is very polite to each other without much communication. After marriage, I have never cohabited. I take a double break and he takes a single break. His family is quite friendly and loves his son very much. He treats me well and has good food and drinks, so I don't have to do household chores. As long as he takes a vacation, I follow him back with me. If he doesn't take a vacation next week, I usually go back to my own home alone.
We have been married for nearly six months now, and his family knows today that we haven't slept together before. Let's come back next week for a check-up. Is it necessary to continue the marriage? Can you give me some advice now? I'm quite confused, my family doesn't know about this yet. (Agree to publish publicly.)
Reply:
When is the most appropriate time for women to have children? Emotionally stable, with a certain emotional foundation. When you and your husband both really want to have children, and have a small deposit. Once you have children, many practical problems come one after another, and couples may experience various frictions, such as arguments, cold wars, distrust of each other, and even feel that they no longer love each other as before. So, if you want to have a child, you should first follow each other's opinions, rather than having a child to satisfy your mother-in-law's wish to have a grandson.
You have the names of husband and wife, but you do not have the reality of husband and wife. Before wanting a child, one should cultivate emotions. How to cultivate it? Since we want to have children, why do we have to live in a different place? We meet two or three times a month, and every time we meet, we feel unfamiliar. We don't know each other well, and when it comes to privacy issues, you dare not ask too much. He doesn't want to mention it, and there is always an awkward situation between the two, which cannot solve any problems. There's no need to rush back for a check-up for now. It's too damaging to his self-esteem, and you're not ready to have a child, even if you haven't laid a good emotional foundation. Don't ask for trouble on your own.
Can't round the house? I suggest you watch two more love action movies from island countries, or you can watch several educational films about sex. Once you have a desire, give each other foreplay, and then everything will be natural. Then, give him more confidence. The first time a man is nervous, there may be a phenomenon of unsuccessful rounds. At this point, as a wife, one needs to slowly give him confidence, eliminate his nervousness and worries, and gradually improve.
You are killing his self-esteem by persuading him to ask his mother about his husband and wife. Instead, renting a house together outside and living together is more practical. It can not only cultivate relationships but also increase communication between each other, and also increase the probability of conceiving a child. If one day you take his money for granted and he stops being polite to you and starts nagging because he cares about you, then perhaps it's time for you to have children.
If he has been unable to complete the procedure, it may be a hindrance in this regard. You can accompany him to the hospital for examination and prescribe appropriate medication. In addition, establish a good lifestyle and exercise more to further improve. There is no need to rush to spread the news between husband and wife. The two of them are focused on external communication, actively cultivating their emotions, and actively treating each other. Try to solve the problem first, don't rush to deny your marriage, manage it well, perhaps the problem between you is not a problem at all. Don't use divorce to solve problems, and divorce won't solve any problems at all.
