Post Date December, 03 2023
Hello, I married my husband after a year of love. After a year of marriage, she gave birth to a baby.
But on the third day of the baby's birth, I found that he betrayed me. We had a little trouble, and it was over.
But a year later, he betrayed again. It was too much. Because I told the woman's husband that my husband wanted to divorce me, and we almost divorced.
Maybe it's because of children or other reasons, we didn't leave at last, but we can't go back to our previous life. He said he would never betray again. But I have never let go of the hurt he has caused me, because I am sad and can't forget it, so I always doubt what he has. What should I do now?
reply:
1. As far as men are concerned, their wives' pregnancy and lactation are often the high incidence periods of their infidelity. At this stage, some men who lack responsibility are self-centered and try to meet their own needs, regardless of the other half, either because of physiological hunger and thirst, or because they are neglected by their wives. It has to be said that such men are really too selfish and should have been severely condemned. They cannot easily be forgiven for their choice. However, while criticizing and blaming such men for their ruthlessness, as a woman, she should also review herself and avoid creating cheating opportunities for her husband in this special period. For example, don't ignore the emotional communication and exchange with her husband, don't easily ignore the existence of the other half, don't just hope that the other party will care about herself, and take the initiative to pay attention to the other half while yearning for their care, Or more to turn to him in a tender attitude, which may reduce the chance of cheating.
2. As far as women are concerned, once they find that their husband is unfaithful, they can't easily choose to forgive. Although the couple need to turn over some contradictions and problems as soon as possible, they must be firm in the end when it comes to issues of principle. They must not relax and waver. They must make the other party aware of the seriousness of their mistakes, otherwise, they will never learn from them. Facts show that when your husband betrayed for the first time, you just chose to have a little fight with him, but he didn't give up completely, or cheated again. This time, the governance method you adopted worked, but it angered him. For this reason, he wants to divorce you, but he is still inseparable from you after all. He didn't want to divorce you, but he didn't want to be honest and settle down, just to meet the need for extramarital affairs. This is the case with some men. Once they cheat once, it is hard to stop, unless his conscience finds out one day, unless he is born with a loss of physical function.
3. For this reason, if you continue to choose to live with this man, you will not be able to clear the shadow left by him from your heart, and no one can guarantee that he will not repeat the same mistakes in the future. There is no good way to face the difficulties of marriage and love. The only thing you need is to face up to the reality, because marriage and love is a kind of luck for everyone, but not everyone will be lucky. When misfortune comes to you, you need to be brave and brave to accept. Strengthening yourself is the only way out.
4. As far as the current situation is concerned, if you don't have the courage to divorce, you can only choose to trust this man's promise again and give the other party and yourself a chance. As for the harm he brings to you, you can only turn it into a driving force for self-improvement in life, and then love yourself and children well. Others hurt you but don't hurt yourself. You can also reflect from the middle school to see where you have lost, whether you lack charm or communication, and find a chance to have a heart-to-heart talk with your husband, and try to find the crux of the problem. If you can fundamentally eliminate your husband's extramarital affairs, and thus improve the marriage relationship, wouldn't it be better.
Good marriage depends on management. Perhaps our bad marriage is also the reason why we have not managed well. We should find out the reasons from ourselves. Maybe some problems can be solved and our mentality will be relieved. Marriage is like this. If we can't afford it, we must learn to adjust ourselves, and then we can live a good life.
