My boyfriend refused to add my name to his wedding house. I was so angry that I bought my own house, and he begged to get back together on his knees

Q:

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than two years, and both of them are older than the age of late marriage. In the face of marriage, although we have occasional quarrels, both of us can make up slowly, but when it comes to family, we can't get along.

The previous breakup was due to the problem of adding a name to the wedding house. His house was mortgaged with a loan of more than 200000 yuan, and the decoration might be 100000 yuan. My mother thought that I had 200000 yuan in my hand when I married, and my family had to pay me a dowry, and we also had to repay the loan together after marriage, so we asked him to add a name. During that time, we often had conflicts. It was the cold war. He did not trust me, so he was not willing to add, so he gave up, No contact for three months.

I went to buy a house by myself in anger and didn't want to rely on men in the future.

Recently, he contacted me again and said that he still wanted to be with me. He was afraid that I would not get back together with him, and nearly knelt down in front of me. I know that before we broke up, his relatives had introduced him, and he also went to see him. In the three months since we broke up, we have also been together with the introduced girlfriend. Now he comes back to me, to tell the truth, I can't let him go.

So we started to talk about the arrangement after marriage. We are going to have children as soon as we get married, but we are quarrelling again about who will bring the children. He asked for two houses. He rented his house to earn rent, and then lived in my house. Because the house I bought was better, and three rooms could be separated from each other. He asked my parents to come and take care of our children.

I told him that my parents had promised my brother to take care of my sister-in-law when she was born. Although my sister-in-law is not pregnant yet, who can tell the truth about this matter, my parents must only take care of it. I think he is the only one in his family, so his parents can help us.

But my boyfriend is particularly opposed, saying that if my parents don't follow us, they won't live with me. I think he doesn't want to live with him. I don't know if my choice is correct?

A:

You shouldn't give him this chance to get back together.

Although we have entered the era of "fast food" for marriage, love is still the indispensable cornerstone of marriage. However, when it comes to love for a certain period of time, it is a pity not to marry. This mentality must not exist. Compared with love, marriage is a longer time to get along and spend together. If the relationship is not harmonious to a certain extent, the problems that break out after marriage will only be more difficult.

You may not have noticed that in this relationship, you are weak and he is strong. He can refuse to add your name to the house, break up, go on dating other blind date, and get back together. Do you find what he wants? Basically, it can be achieved.

His premarital property is his, but your parents must act as "nannies" for your small family. How long will you allow him to use the trick of threatening you to compromise by breaking up?

Now there is no longer the concept of "late marriage and late childbirth". Girl, the conditions are appropriate, no matter what age, it is the age of marriage. You have said that you do not rely on men, and you only want to rely on your men without spending money and effort. Are you willing to take it? Instead of taking such a big risk to get married, why not find another good relationship?

When looking for a lover, you should look for someone who respects you, can communicate with you, and has the same three views. In this way, happiness after marriage can be guaranteed.