Post Date December, 03 2023
You will always understand, and when you look back later, things will have different angles. The pain and unwillingness of the past were just our loneliest solo performances; At that time, what you thought was irreplaceable, but later on, you also found that there were too many people in the world who had won him. The missing in the relationship is actually because the other party doesn't want to stay.
About love, we all understand while walking. Always think that there is no way ahead before you really embark on a new road.
There is no pain to eat for nothing, no tears to shed for nothing. There is no one in the world who can trap you forever. Take one step, grow up one step. You know that's the natural maturation of life. To strive forward, there will be a chance to turn around in the future, and then in that turn, see yourself more beautiful and brave, not regret. Love is honest, it's always you who deceives you
What is your truest feeling in that relationship?
When the date is over and after saying goodbye to each other, you walk around and turn around again. Looking at the distant figure, just as you parted, you begin to look forward to the next meeting again, but that's never his mood or the tacit understanding with you. He never turns around. Later, you began to train yourself not to look back. You know, that's equivalent to practicing not to love him more than he loves you.
You miss him, just like every pair of lovers do. But you can't find him because he said it would affect his work. "You all know that you are not the kind of girl who loves to make trouble out of nothing. Of course, you are willing to support him in his efforts to work hard for his career, but why is there a sense of unease in your heart that if you don't work harder, this relationship should fade.".
The reason he gives you is always very simple, as long as you ask more, it is deliberately finding fault. He has never really convinced you, and it has always been you who calmed you down - but you have never really convinced yourself, your loneliness is very noisy, and there are all kinds of questions and answers you can't stop asking yourself.
"You have asked some people, the closest and farthest, some of whom understand you well, and some of whom are sufficiently distant to be absolutely objective.". "You desire that the answers they give you will be different, but the truth is that they only have some direct and some tactful answers, but the answers are exactly the same as those in your heart.".
Do you still love me?
"You have thought about many reasons for him, or you are making excuses for yourself. You think that may be your problem.". Blaming yourself for all the problems in your relationship is the simplest way to handle them, because you just need to handle yourself. In those questions and answers that can only be answered by one person, you find that all the questions can be reduced to the same one: Do you still love me?
And you already know the answer.
When this relationship changes from two people to one person; When this love changes from caring to being difficult for each other; When this relationship changes from interaction to avoidance, you already know the answer.
Perhaps you really asked, and his answer wasn't unexpected, but why do you still feel so sad?
Or, if the answer is positive, you feel relieved and feel like you've been thinking too much. After a while, you realize that things haven't changed at all. He's still himself, and you're still unhappy.
"We are always in that repetitive relationship, so embarrassed that we can no longer convince ourselves, before finally facing the answer:"
The person who really cares about you is trying to understand you. The person who truly loves you wants to stay with you as much as possible.
The truth of love is inherently so simple, but what is complex is our later reasoning, the complicated reasoning that we all know the answer, but still insist on bypassing the truth to do.
I finally understand
True love, there will be no compulsion. Don't believe that love can fool the public and remove the mountain, because the mountain won't go, but the person who doesn't love you can easily walk away; Don't believe in love over time, you will only see the lasting injury in the end, the feelings you force, and in the end, you will only be sad.
True happiness is not about who you strive to keep, but about who you always rely on and who won't walk away from; The true happiness is not that you have to endure the wait, but that the other person has always kept you at the bottom of their heart and never really separated.
You really understand and have decided to face it. The answer you already knew. Love is honest, it never deceives you. Love has always been so clear, deceiving you has always been yourself.
