Post Date December, 02 2023
Previously, I encountered a client who was obsessed with various advertising texts and design images. An outdoor advertisement had to be revised countless times, delaying for six months. Even the leader had to change before finally deciding on the first sentence to be written. At that time, it was less than two months before the opening, and a full half year of the initial time had been wasted in hesitation.
Encountering such a situation is of course very frustrating and irritable, because many of them are common sense issues, and too much entanglement neglects the key points and even affects the overall progress of the project, which is definitely not worth the loss. As a service provider, I often export dirty products privately.
One day when I chatted with a colleague, he thought I was in good condition. In the face of such volatile customers, although he often complained about it, he did not fall into a state of anxiety mentally. I said to him half jokingly and half seriously, "Because I didn't take work as everything
My colleague is in his early thirties and has a house and a car in Beijing. Although the house is not big and the car is not luxurious, he has everything he should have. The child is about to learn to call him father. But he always seems to be in a very hurry every day, as if everything is about to burn his brows, easily getting emotional and even over understanding what others are saying, which brings him great trouble.
After listening to me say that, my colleague immediately received a message: "I don't take work as everything, I also accompany my wife and children every day when I go home
I said, "This is not the point. The point is that the emotional waste you generate at work is still piled up in your heart, and you haven't emptied it out. Over time, this waste becomes a problem. I don't take work as everything, it's not that I avoid it, but that I'm used to pulling myself out of my work fatigue. I want to leave a better side for my life, so I must try to eliminate emotional waste every day
Yes, my wife often says about me, always bringing home all the unpleasant things from work, which affects her mood. You know, she had already prepared the food for me to go back to eat, but when she opened the door and saw my stinky face, her mood naturally declined. I understand this very well, and these negative emotions can also lead to us... treating our son unfairly, you can say so
I said: Human emotions, like many things in life, have their pros and cons. There should be a waste paper basket under your desk, a bucket for storing rotten vegetable roots and leaves in your kitchen, and even a recycling bin in your computer. They can help you clean up unnecessary and useless things, but because emotions are invisible and intangible, many people don't know how to handle them. When comforting others, they often say to control their temper, but in fact That's just a temporary solution, because the bad emotions you control and suppress are still in your body and can recur at any time
My colleague asked me how to handle these problems in my daily life. I told him some of my own methods at that time, and talked about them in any order, regardless of priority or advantage. Later, I compiled 9 articles to provide some reference for those who are prone to "not being calm" in the workplace. If it's useful, just give it a try.
1- [Find a quiet place and let go of your thoughts]
I usually find a less busy time in the afternoon, go stand in the hallway for a while (15 minutes is enough, you can't even have this time available), open my eyes (it's easy to fall asleep with them closed), and let my mind think freely. Many people think that 'letting go' means thinking nothing, but in fact, it's not right. You can't think nothing, but you need to let your mind think freely, without control or guidance. The hallway is usually dark and quiet, and when you stand there, you can clearly hear the sound of the elevator going up and down, just like being in a spaceship. I often imagine opening the door and seeing the stars twinkling in the pitch black sky outside, which is extremely beautiful.
2- [Find a lively place to watch people come and go]
Don't think that only silence can calm a person's mood, but in fact, liveliness also works. Many times when I get off work, I feel a lot of anger in my heart, so I wear headphones and deliberately walk one stop before taking the bus. For a period of time, I worked on Dawang Road and walked from Modern City to Guomao every day. That road happened to face most people returning to Yanjiao, so I always felt like I was going the opposite way. Sometimes I just sit by the roadside and observe the expressions and expressions of those who are in a hurry. It's not really meaningful to do so, but it's precisely this meaningless way that relieves my stress.
3- 【 Change the slow song on your phone 】
Most people have popular love songs installed on their phones or MP3s, with slow beats. Personally, I think songs with a beat speed below 80 are more sentimental to listen to. In addition, Chinese songs are almost exclusively about love, loneliness, and tolerance while licking wounds, making it easier for listeners to feel down. People who listen to 'I Want to Be Happy' are not happy at all, so try to switch to electronic music with a bright rhythm or rock music with a strong rhythm. Electronic music can make people uncontrollably want to swing with it, while the roaring singing of rock music can make people vent in their thinking, which invisibly relieves some pressure.
4- [Standing in the subway, taking steps when transferring]
Because it's impossible to grab a seat at all, many people are standing in the subway, listening to music or watching videos, and a few are reading or in a daze. It doesn't matter, but the key is to stick to walking the steps when transferring to the subway. My own feeling is that every time I transfer, as long as it is in the upward direction, I must step up step by step, and down there is a choice to walk, or follow the elevator. Usually, the steps that go up are steeper and narrower than regular steps, and I intentionally place my feet exactly in the middle of the steps, so I need to concentrate. This is actually quite boring, but boring things are often the most distracting and have no burden on the mind.
5- [Watch B-level violent action movies]
I won't recommend any specific films here, just give me the reasons. B-rated films are often overlooked because they are filled with bloody, violent, and even some pornographic content, and cannot reach mainstream cinemas. However, there is a reason why they can form a genre and are loved by so many fans.
