Men are prone to losing their temper due to their inner inferiority complex and lack of confidence

A psychologist once said, "Nowadays, many men are prone to impulsivity, not because of how impatient their temper is, but because of a lack of confidence." Some also say that men lack confidence and are prone to impulsive emotions, which are actually a form of self-protection. Is it true that men's impulsiveness is related to confidence in the viewpoint mentioned above?

From a psychological perspective, if a man does not recognize his own values, he will feel that he is looked down upon and threatened, and this psychological state is manifested in cowardice and withdrawal. Especially when encountering unexpected events, it is more likely to trigger uncontrollable emotions, such as impatience, anger, etc.

For impulsive men, it is recommended to adopt the following points to help alleviate their impulsive emotions.

Firstly, if something suddenly happens that makes your emotions anxious and angry, it's better to cool down your emotions before expressing them, such as saying to yourself, "I'll be angry in three minutes." Then silently count in your heart. Don't underestimate these three minutes, they can greatly help you regain your sanity.

Secondly, when you find yourself about to lose control of your emotions, quickly switch to a different environment, and your attention and energy will also shift accordingly. Don't let yourself get stuck in a dead end. Always think about the people or things that make you angry, as this will make you even more angry. In addition, when you feel that your emotions are out of control, you can take the initiative to exercise and let the impulsive emotions flow away with sweat.

Finally, as is often said, one should speak up and communicate more with friends when encountering difficulties. Especially when you are not angry, talk to people who are often angry with you, listen to each other's most easily angered things, and imagine some ways to communicate emotions.

Confidence needs to be established by oneself. With confidence, one can have a good attitude towards life. The impulses brought by lack of confidence cannot solve the fundamental problems. While expressing one's emotions, one should also understand the correct self-regulation and not let impulses lead to things that one regrets.

To be a person, one must have a peaceful and tolerant mentality

Those who achieve great things are good at giving in, that is, they do not unnecessarily argue high and low with others, but instead focus on doing their own things through tolerance. One of the key reasons why many people cannot achieve great things is that they are willing to fight without action and not willing to let go.

A gentleman is a noble character that has been passed down for thousands of years. To be a person, one should be open-minded and have a peaceful and tolerant heart. This is not only a charm, but also a necessary personality for successful professionals.

The so-called tolerance refers to a person maintaining a humble, self disciplined, and compromise attitude and behavior when interacting with others. What we tolerate here are non principled small matters with our friends, colleagues, etc. If there is a slight friction with friends or colleagues, don't haggle over every detail. You should be open-minded and eat some small losses.

The purpose of doing so is to avoid damaging the friendship between friends and the unity between colleagues. And when it comes to negative phenomena, negative social norms, and bad people and things in life, one cannot tolerate them. Instead, we should step forward and fight resolutely.

So, what we mean by forbearance is not a lack of discernment between right and wrong, a abandonment of principles, and an infinite tolerance for everything. When one should endure, one should endure, and when one should not, one should not give in. It is necessary to achieve the measure of 'a man who can bend and stretch', which is the measure that successful people possess.

To be patient, one must have an open-minded mind and not be too strict with others when dealing with people and things. We should learn to tolerate and forgive others' shortcomings and mistakes. To achieve this, one must have magnanimity, not be narrow-minded, but be magnanimous. Especially in small matters, if you are lenient and try to appear "confused", it is easy to make people feel that you are knowledgeable about world affairs and human relationships.

There is a story about a Zen master who lived in a thatched cottage in the mountains and practiced. One day, while taking a walk in the forest at night, under the bright moonlight, he suddenly realized the wisdom of his own nature.

He walked back to his residence with joy, but saw that his thatched hut was being visited by thieves. The thief who couldn't find any belongings was about to leave when he met Zen master at the door. Originally, the Zen master was afraid of disturbing the thief and had been standing at the door waiting. He knew that the thief would never find anything valuable, so he had already taken off his coat and held it in his hand. The thief met the Zen master and was feeling shocked when he said, "You come all the way up the mountain to visit me. You can't come back empty handed! The night is getting cold, so take this clothes with you and go

Say it. He draped his clothes over the thief, who was at a loss and ducked away.

The Zen master watched as the thief's back passed through the bright moonlight and disappeared into the mountains. He couldn't help but sigh and say, "Poor person! I wish I could send him a bright moon

After watching the thief leave, the Zen master returned to the thatched cottage and sat naked. He looked out the window at the bright moon and entered the void.

The next day, under the touch of warm sunlight, he opened his eyes from a deep meditation and saw his coat neatly folded on the thief's body, placed at the door. The Zen master was very happy and murmured, "I finally gave him a bright moon

This is the end of the writing. I remember another story in reality: there was a woman who kept talking to others about her neighbor's filthy house. Once, she intentionally led a friend into her house and pointed out the window, saying, "Look, how dirty the clothes hanging on the line at that house are!" But the friend whispered to her, "If you look carefully, I think you can understand that the dirty thing is not someone else's clothes, but your own window glass

Yes. We live under the same blue sky, why not learn to be lenient towards others, but rather easily criticize them? Even if it's really neighbor's clothes that are dirty, why can't we show understanding and tolerance? You should know that doing so will not cause us any losses.

(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)