Post Date December, 02 2023
Recently, the online report that "the older man and his girlfriend quarreled and broke up and swallowed more than ten embroidery needles" immediately attracted the attention and heated discussion of the majority of friends. On the road of love, breaking up is a common and painful thing. It seems that the fate of "good reunion and good separation" has a heavy impact on the men who break up. Especially in terms of emotions, men are more likely to be depressed... How can the men who break up let go of the sad past, no longer burn into ashes, and tears start to dry?
Men are more likely to be depressed when they just break up
However, for the emotional reaction at the time of breaking up, men are another appearance. There is such a question, when the ark of love encounters an iceberg, who can handle it better? The answer is: women. Several research results show that men are more depressed, sad and anxious than women after breaking up. Men should feel very strong, but in fact they are very fragile. Many men can't handle the reasons for breaking up well. For example:
1. Men cover up their pain
When a boy is dumped, his first reaction is: I won't let her know how painful I am. How did he do it: hang out with a few friends. According to the survey of Men's Health Online, 26% of men will hold a dumped party and get drunk after breaking up, but this is only a minority. 36% of men felt that they should see their new rights and thank the person who dumped them. In fact, both reactions are masks that hide their true feelings. It doesn't help sadness and anger at all. Men have been sad about their lost feelings, even after their dumped party. Women will cry and tell the truth immediately after breaking up. The study found that when women face their failed feelings, they will be very sad at first, but quickly get out of the shadows. Many men want to suppress their emotions, but their feelings can not be released.
2. Men have few friends
One reason why women recover faster than men after breaking up is that women have an amazing circle of friends. Research shows that men rely on love for emotional intimacy and social support, and women like to take family and female friends as the safest sustenance. Including mother, sister, friend beautician and driver, no matter who she is, the more she talks, the faster she recovers. On the other hand, men will act as if nothing had happened to the breakup and will not be trapped by feelings. Six months later, when the man is willing to face his feelings frankly, what he wants is to return to the girl.
3. Men regard emotion as a game
The breakdown of many relationships is a subconscious reaction, while men regard it as stagnation. They find it boring to go to the same restaurant, face the same person and repeat sex. After breaking up, they will immediately find that being single does not mean champagne and semi-naked beauty. Even in exciting bars, they also feel that the past intimacy is more nostalgic. Research shows that women are always better at social, sexual and rational intimacy. They tend to realize the lasting relationship based on kinship faster than men.
4. It is difficult for men to reestablish another relationship
After breaking up, boys are very excited at first. They can date other women. But after three, four or dozens of days, they will realize that it will take a long time to feel as natural as their ex-girlfriend. A survey by Carnegie Mellon University in the United States shows that girls are better able to adapt to the end of the relationship because they have considered the possibility of breaking up. However, boys are not prepared. Emotional security could not be the only reason for being together, which made him realize how lucky he was to have her, and at the same time, she had left him. When he was drunk and called her to admit his feelings, it was too late.
So once a man's feelings are blank, it's also terrible. So it's better to choose loneliness and depravity and let yourself travel to start a new life?
Warm tips: breaking up is almost the only journey in the long journey of love. When talking about breaking up, men had better choose a happy and peaceful break up, keep their good memories in the heart, bless her, and bravely pursue their own happiness.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)
