Post Date December, 02 2023
Lan Zhenglong, a former boyfriend, celebrated her birthday by not only packing a restaurant, but also personally cooking Fried Rice with eggs, fried pork chops and fruit platters. The ex-boyfriend Zai Zai is also controlled to keep an absolute distance from the heroine when shooting new plays, and never say a word outside the dialogue!
Or listen to Cathia's complaint. The woman is preparing to close the skylight, but the 4-carat pink diamond ring has become the fuse of the quarrel. "Do you have to compare with Li Xiang whose diamond is bigger?" Of course, her boyfriend has reason to doubt this, but Cathia thinks she certainly deserves the affirmation of a 4-carat pink diamond ring. One of her girlfriends asked her boyfriend to fly from Shanghai to Beijing to visit her every week. Another girlfriend couldn't knock on the door as long as her boyfriend didn't bring GODIVA chocolate. By contrast, it was easy to be Cathia's boyfriend.
Girls in love have reason to be arrogant
Expert analysis:
There are reasons for girls in love to be arrogant. Italian female scientist Maraziti recently found that the male hormone level of men and women in love tends to be the same - men bow their heads, women look up (consistent with the kissing action), so he will become gentle and gentle, while she is warm and impulsive.
Philippe Rushton, a Canadian psychologist, found in the study of human genetic relationship that if the spouse and his own genes are similar, marriage will be more happy, and the same outlook on life and values will make the love long-distance race more successful. No wonder men sing "Godisagirl", and write every anniversary in red pen on the notepad with fear, praying that what they do can meet her heart.
That's right! I like to correct a man's ideas, take the trouble to transform him, and ask him to live according to his own style... This is not a demanding or perfectionist act. You have to trust a woman's intuition. She knows how to transform a man into the most lasting model.
Torturing men to drive away uneasiness
Sample plot: "You can only understand how justified Jiang Wenli's actions are in" Chinese Style Divorce "when you are in the scene." Xiaozhu said. An accidental derailment of people around her made her a nervous master. Check the mobile phone persistently (careless men will always leave clues); After 8 o'clock, check the post by phone (if you take the opportunity to work overtime, you will be found out); The clothes changed at home were checked at the first time (long hair, lipstick prints and perfume smell are the key points). He was going crazy, and she was not far from collapse.
Expert analysis: A group of researchers from Queen Mary College, University of London, UK, investigated 4000 samples and found that lack of security would make women in cohabitation or marriage in poor mental condition. If a couple's relationship breaks down, the risk of mental illness of women will be higher.
Psychologists believe that many women and their friends have had husbands cheating, and it is the misfortunes around them that reduce their trust in men and marriage. They feel that the safe environment may collapse at any time, and everything is full of uncertainty. According to the survey, 52% of women who feel the lack of sense of security think it comes from their boyfriend (husband).
Let women feel more secure. Men are duty-bound
For individuals, whether they can have a sense of security has a lot to do with life experience. For example, the impact of divorced families on children's sense of security. If there is no father in the family, there may be many difficulties, even external threats. Children subconsciously are too alert to the external world. In addition, when you see the tragedy of your parents' marriage, your subconscious will worry that your marriage will be like your parents.
How can we enhance women's sense of security? Men are duty-bound. Psychologists believe that the desire for a safe living environment is human instinct. If this safe environment is maintained by others' help, people will feel safe; If we want to maintain a safe environment through our own strength, people will feel insecure.
What we need to do is to learn the skills of having a sense of security, for example, to maintain an objective cognitive evaluation of the "stress stimulus" that can cause anxiety. The husband's occasional absence overnight will not make his wife care too much, which is not a stress stimulus; If the husband does not return all night and asks him the reason and evades, it is considered as a stress stimulus. What can you do now? The answer is, calm and frank.
Torture men to earn extra points in life
Sample plot: This model is the former wife of French President Nicolas Sarkozy, Ms. Cecilia. She ran away from home because of extramarital affairs, which made Sarkozy publicly perform the "Hundred Day War to Protect the Family", and finally moved her to return. She stayed at home for only a few decades, and then flew to New York again to pursue her love. Not only that, her novel, co-authored with the biographer Valerie Domene, has been on the best-selling list in Paris, and the biggest selling point of the book is her marriage with Sarkozy. She made the best use of everything for Sarkozy.
This dramatic plot is somewhat extreme. In reality, a man is not only a sweet partner in your life, but also has the obligation to add points to your life. My female boss stays in the office until 21:00 every day - which is understandable, but she requires her husband to stay in the office until 22:00! The reason is: your failure is my disgrace. I try to earn high and excellent salary. You have to work harder to get to a higher position and earn better salary.
The value of a woman depends on the man who loves her
Expert analysis: Abraham Maslow's idea is very optimistic: we all have a natural tendency to strive to reach the highest level of our ability. In this process, we will have a peak experience of pleasure, which is much more beautiful than the feelings of love. Therefore, it is worthwhile to sacrifice a little pleasure of love in exchange for this pleasure. But don't be too extreme. According to the data of Dr. Steven Beglass, who has been studying for many years, sticking to the things that are not satisfied psychologically but succeed materially usually means disaster.
That's right! Just like in love novels, the touching statement that "the value of a woman depends on the man who loves her", the independent professional women sniff and contemplate, is it also reasonable? At least, the position of men is in their hearts, and will not be lower than their salary, position and figure. Even though the progress of industrial society has changed them from charcoal in snow to flowers on brocade, it is still important.
The most common example is the competition in Office. The promotion is no longer only about the ability to fight alone. The boss has no idea how many times he has compared you with your colleagues: qualifications, abilities, personality, and your spouse. Which woman dares to take her other half lightly? The purpose of tossing is to make his progress turn into your strength.
TIPS: Just a few tenets that torture men:
1. Choose to share, rather than transfer all.
Pressure=pressure/area. Their shoulders are too thin, so they have to bear higher pressure. If you can't change the pressure, you can change the area and find a solid shoulder to share, so that the burden of both people is within a controllable range, and the experience of working together will make your relationship stronger.
2. Master rhythm
Everyone needs breathing space, and men also have this right. If he has shown an unprecedented rebound in your "torture" recently, and his mood is getting more and more anxious, then it is time to loosen the string. If the spring is stretched for too long, it will lose its elasticity. The relaxation and orderly rhythm is the way to a long time.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)
