Post Date December, 02 2023
[Question]
I want to leave my husband and marry my lover. My husband is still unaware that I have an affair. He is too careless and we have little communication. But after all, I have been a couple for over twenty years, and it's not easy for me to truly give up this family in my heart.
My lover also has a family and is very gentle and considerate towards me, but his divorce is more troublesome than mine, mainly in terms of property division. He is in business and has a considerable industry. Once divorced, his property will suffer greatly. My husband and I had a comfortable life, and our thoughts were not on him, so we had to maintain it. Our hearts were very suppressed.
I have broken up with my lover many times and went home separately, but he refused to let me wait for him. After he resolved the divorce, he would spend time with me. But now I don't want to wait for him anymore, such a three person relationship is too torturous.
Answer
An extramarital lover, "gentle" and "rich", must have both in order to make a woman bewitched. Unfortunately, the person you met has both, so it's even worse. You have a new mindset and are determined to completely own and accept him as your husband.
But they are not willing, why should you pick it up? Do you know how much of the wealth behind him is aided by his wife? How many shares may have been owned by his wife? You don't even know. When he was struggling, he didn't have a character like you around him. Now that he has achieved a little, you can enjoy the benefits of fishing. To be fair, is this appropriate?
Don't use emotions as excuses to conceal your true greed. You are greedy for the romance and tenderness he lays out with material possessions, you are greedy for the rich enjoyment he can bring you, and you are greedy for the level of life he leads. You think that by getting this person, you can also get this kind of life. So on ordinary days, no matter how hard it is to enter your eyes. Seeking but not being able to, there are countless difficulties and hardships.
After experiencing a different taste, I feel that my past life cannot be returned, it is too boring, and it was not yet a moment of earth shattering. My husband's carelessness cannot be used as an excuse for you to act recklessly. At the moment of losing the trust of my husband and the protection of my marriage, I feel regretful. These words are too light, and then I face real torment in my heart.
Some men are naturally talkative, and if the woman in the family doesn't dominate the conversation, they may not be able to say a word all day. It's not about saying good things for your husband, after all, you still recognize this family yourself. "It's not easy to really give up in your heart," so take advantage of now and decisively bid farewell to the days when you were tempted, shaken, and betrayed by the family. There are too many temptations, the key is that the scale in your own heart cannot be crooked. Whether it is emotions or wealth, it should be 'taken in a proper way'.
