Post Date December, 03 2023
In reality, we will encounter many such cases: a couple of lovers fall in love, basically to the point of marriage, but the woman's mother firmly disagrees. The reason is incompatibility. Do you believe that a happy marriage needs matching? If there is no consistent mental fit between lovers, will such a marriage be happy only on the impulse of youth?
Men and women are the most stable at the age of 5
In marriage, men are older than women only when their husbands are more than four years older than their wives. People have become more tolerant of the differences between men and women in age. Nowadays, it seems that men are 4 to 8 years older than women, which can be accepted by many people calmly. However, if the age difference is more than 10 years old, they will still be criticized. But in the eyes of many scholars at home and abroad, this kind of marriage is very happy and relatively stable.
A survey conducted by European scientists shows that age is a key weight affecting marital stability. Dr Emmanuel Flanier of the University of Bath, UK, conducted a follow-up survey on 1534 couples. The results showed that the best model for couples to maintain a strong marriage is that both men and women have received higher education and no divorce history, and the man is more than 5 years older than the woman. Researchers said that wives who are more than five years younger than their husbands are the least likely to have conflicts, and their divorce rate is 1/6 of that of other marriages.
In this regard, experts said that the three happiness points of such marriage have become the pillars of family stability. The first point of happiness is to meet women's desire of "trinity". Generally, the prince charming that women dream of has the maturity of their father, the care of their brother and the vitality of their friends. The husband is older, more mature mentally, and more comfortable with feelings. The second point of happiness is that the elderly husband usually has a certain economic basis, which reduces the probability of disputes due to the economy. The third happiness point is that family competition is less. When the husband is older, women will naturally develop a sense of dependence and obedience, which will reduce the competition of rights between husband and wife, and the friction will decrease accordingly.
When it comes to the disadvantages of this kind of marriage, generally speaking, the average life expectancy of men is shorter than that of women. If the husband is much older than his wife, it may be that the husband will die and the wife will be alone.
