Post Date December, 03 2023
Marriage experts interpret that beauty is not related to loyalty in marriage. Beauty can lead to love, but love that arises solely from beauty may be more likely to pass away like beauty; The loyalty of marriage lies in the careful management and dedication of both parties, and the latter is not related to beauty.
The protagonist Rose, who is as beautiful as a flower, suffers from the pain of her husband's infidelity and faces a dilemma in her marriage. Her situation is both pitiful and admirable. It reminds people of the description of a type of unfortunate marriage in ancient literature: even if the case is raised in unison, the meaning is difficult to reconcile! We believe that both Rose and her husband, who are in a marital crisis, are in great pain. But the occurrence of a crisis must have its own reasons, and one cannot but reflect. Indeed, Rose's choice of marriage will ultimately be determined by herself; But before making a decision, let's take a look at what caused their marriage to go from seemingly "rock solid" at the beginning to unbearable pain in the end? What is the reason why a beautiful rose, like a flower, did not have loyal love and marriage as one had hoped for?
Firstly, the emotional foundation of this marriage has been imbalanced from the beginning. According to the theory of social psychology, "love" is an emotion, which can be a one-way payment; Love and marriage must be a two-way effort; A stable marriage relationship must be built on the emotional foundation of both individuals willing to contribute to each other. The "love" felt by Rose before marriage seems to be one-way: her husband fell in love at first sight due to Rose's beauty and fashion, persevered in pursuit, and moved her with a touching "dedication", ultimately moving her; But I cannot see the rose in love and its corresponding behavior. From this analysis, in the emotional aspect of the rose, it did not truly accept her husband as the belonging of her love, but instead regarded emotion as love on the basis of meeting the need to be loved. Therefore, the imbalanced relationship between love and being loved between the two laid a turbulent foundation for this marriage from the beginning, and naturally said the words "good to gather and good to part" when they first got married.
Secondly, in the handling of marital relationships, Rose's seemingly extremely "trusting" approach may also make her husband feel neglected, and even reflect her neglect of her own responsibilities in the marital relationship. The appearance and other conditions of a husband's extramarital affair are far inferior to those of a rose, but they can make him unable to stop it. This may also be due to the repeated entanglement of the third party to meet the husband's inner needs of being cared for and valued, which is precisely what he cannot be satisfied in his marriage with a rose. In other words, the husband uses extramarital affairs as compensation for marriage. In a deeper sense, the husband's indecisive behavior in handling the relationship with the "mistress" reflects his unconscious behavior of re attracting and gaining the wife's attention to him, thus inevitably refusing to divorce. What should be more noteworthy is that from beginning to end, we cannot see effective communication, communication, and resolution between couples. What we see is only avoidance, evasion, blame, and lies. Can it be inferred that there were issues with the way couples communicated before the marital crisis occurred? If so, this may be one of the main reasons for the crisis.
Thirdly, it violates the rule of balanced development and common progress between spouses in marital relationships. It has been nearly ten years since Rose resigned from her job and became a full-time wife at home during her pregnancy. Compared to her husband's career, Rose may only be a "godson" and cannot be a "husband". Therefore, the distance and roles between husband and wife are widened and confused, without common topics, explicit comparisons, mutual motivation and psychological assistance. Objectively, they "blend" into one person, that is, the dependence and dependence in their careers, finally forming the current situation.
To this day, there is indeed a better solution besides divorce, where both spouses are aware of each other's problems and make adjustments and changes. For Rose, make psychological adjustments, emotionally accept her husband again, take on the responsibility of being a wife, and give her enough attention and care. For a husband, it is necessary to cut off extramarital affairs, interact with his wife in a mature way, and obtain the satisfaction of his own needs within the marriage. At the same time, both spouses find effective ways to communicate and communicate. If it weren't for this, the harm in this marriage would definitely happen again in each other's future lives.
Beauty can lead to love, but love that arises solely from beauty may be more likely to pass away like beauty; The loyalty of marriage lies in the careful management and dedication of both parties, and the latter is not related to beauty.
