Post Date December, 03 2023
Marriage is to live. Different families have different rules, habits and patterns, marking men and women with different marks, automatically isolating many families that are too different to understand each other. For example, some families feel that it is normal to beat children. "Not beating is not a talent", "beating is a scolding or love", and their children will automatically walk away with a smile after being kicked on the butt. But for another family, the implementation of democratic management on children is undoubtedly the greatest harm to children. Corporal punishment is simply a great disgrace and worth fighting with death.
People living in a marriage influence and change each other. Don't underestimate this influence. It will make the two people in the marriage gradually become tacit from the soul to the body. Especially the strong one will have a brainwashing effect on the weak one, and the other will slowly live according to the needs and logic of the other.
Scientific research has proved that the better the relationship between husband and wife, the longer the life time, the higher the similarity in appearance. This law has been confirmed by many folk cases, and is a common phenomenon in life. This shows that people are used to imitating each other, and their expressions and thoughts will become similar due to unconscious imitation.
In a relatively healthy and normal family, women tend to be the soul that dominates the details of the family. Just like our mother used to wash and cook for us in our childhood memories, all the little things are in the care of her mother. As a man, he is often the person who passively accepts these things. He is only responsible for the problem of direction and is not good at guiding the details.
Therefore, years of marriage will lead to a man's deep-rooted lifestyle, which implies the figure of another woman. Does he like sour food or sweet food? Where do you put towels? Which side of the bed do you sleep on? What is the secret pleasure in married life? These were determined by him and her through a little run-in, trial and negotiation. He can leave her, but he may never leave these habits that have become a part of his life. The longer the marriage age, the more obvious this will be. Even though some habits he disliked in his marriage life, he divorced, and in a new marriage, he would unconsciously reference and repeat the old habits, and even imitate his wife's behavior.
For example, when a man lives with his wife, he is disgusted that his wife always spends money on clothes and cosmetics. This problem has become the most direct contradiction between them. The two people are quarreling and quarreling, and finally split up in one shot, and each takes what he needs. But when the man is faced with the simplicity of his new wife, he feels more and more like he is missing something. He can't help but mobilize his wife to dress up. He thinks that this is the real woman. In fact, he has virtually agreed with his ex-wife's behavior, but he did not realize it.
He and she built each other together, infiltrated each other from the bull hit, and finally mixed together, not just him and her anymore.
Those girls who fall in love with married men or divorced men may never think of this. They just bravely feel that as long as there is love, everything can be overcome and everything is not a problem. They use their simple experience to weigh men's mentality. I think that at any time and place, as long as I want to start again, I can return everything to zero. It is this ignorant courage that will hurt them. In the process of getting along, their feelings can only temporarily change them for a period of time, and eventually they will return to their original habits.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
