Post Date November, 16 2024
Even couples who have already felt happy can become even happier because most of them still lack deep communication with each other, and true sexual intimacy is very subtle. Avoiding conflicts, being satisfied with superficial happiness, and not making any effort to improve the realm that needs improvement is relatively easier, but it is fragile.
Experts believe that true love can be divided into four realms
Love Realm One: Lust
You may think that as long as they share similar personalities, the relationship will naturally last for a long time. But don't forget, personality needs to be attached to the body, and the body is the powerful (and interesting) tool that connects you more closely with your partner. Sexual love is a combination of sexual relationships and should be fully utilized. If sexual life is not harmonious, there is undoubtedly an unbreakable gap between two people.
A healthy sexual life not only brings sensory pleasure, but also improves the quality of life (in a broad sense). A pair of partners who have been suffering from "sexual drought" during treatment found that they often make a big fuss over trivial matters, and then feel extremely frustrated. They accepted the expert's advice and began to relive their physical intimacy, becoming more tolerant and loving towards each other.
Although you may have sex every day, your passion is no longer as passionate as when you first fell in love. The perfect sign of their sexual desire is that their sexual positions are unconventional. When both of them were silently reciting the rules of one step, two steps, three or four steps, the way of making love had fallen into the old ways, just like a routine, monotonous and tedious.
As long as it's not on the plane, you can definitely explore some more sexual positions that both of you find comfortable. The signs of "decline" in bedtime make it difficult to feel true joy when orgasm arrives. The way to activate sexual desire is actually simple and effective, just unleash your imagination and creativity, reignite the spark of sex, abandon old routines, and boldly experiment with new ways of finding love. Don't worry about the slightly clumsy "adjustment period", dare to think and act. At the moment that excites you the most, you must tell him.
Gree, 29 years old, sales director. She and her boyfriend learned to openly exchange feelings about their bed behavior afterwards. "Every time we have a romantic relationship, we need to briefly discuss, such as when I am particularly excited, what I do to make him climax, and so on. This keeps our sexual life vibrant, not only never falling into a slump, but also constantly reaching new levels
Love Realm 2: Spirit
Any love contains sincere factors and should be a harmonious development of spirit and body. Although the meaning of loving someone far exceeds friendship, you can still be friends with them with peace of mind and appreciate the beauty of distance.
The Platonic spirit of love, to the purest and most beautiful, is the glue that holds all other realms together. When you start to feel tired of romance, when your energy has been exhausted by lust, then you can only rely on trust and friendship to maintain the progress of the relationship.
Exploring your friendship realm, first think about how you get along when you're not in bed. On the weekend afternoon, you caught the flu and kept coughing and sneezing. Don't say anything else, it's impossible to even kiss. The two of you are just sitting on the sofa watching cartoons that have been played several times; How much you need his shoulder to lean against when you cry loudly, but he is not nearby; When he tells you about all the frustrations in his work, you appear very impatient... All of these indicate that your relationship is below the norm of a friend.
Fei Fei, 30 years old, a lawyer, said, "My boyfriend and I were physically in perfect harmony. Back then, we were both law students, and we could understand each other rationally. But later, when we went out for a weekend, we realized that they couldn't get along and were very embarrassed." A friend suggested that Fei Fei take the initiative to ask some personal life questions, For example, "What kind of weekend do you most yearn for?" "Who was your best playmate when you were a child? Why did you like him the most?" Trying to create a friendly atmosphere while also creating a sexual atmosphere is crucial when discussing some of the topics that lovers pay attention to. Feifei adopted a friend's suggestion, "Now that I have a better understanding of his background and emotional experience, I have a more objective view of him. Sharing every bit of life with him has become my happiest moment, because we no longer only consider each other as romantic lovers, but also our closest friends
Love Realm Three: Romance
When was the last time you two spent a good night together - the one that surprised and captivated you the most? If you still have thoughts on this issue after 30 seconds, it's time to light up the "passion" red light for you.
Excessive flirtatiousness is not helpful in maintaining long-term relationships, but moderate romance is a seasoning and preservative for love, allowing lovers to fully enjoy the vitality of love.
Li Ye, 28 years old, translated, "Every year my husband makes a weekend travel plan, and from the beginning, he keeps it a secret. I never know where he wants to take me, but every time he chooses a place, he shows deep care and consideration for me. It is the annual surprise that fills our marriage with a fresh and exciting feeling
To add a romantic touch, first ask yourself (rather than those who are good at printing Valentine's cards) what love and romance really mean. Listening to your own voice is as important as listening to others. If your understanding of romance is a kind of flat and light, not seeking earth shaking, not expecting the largest Valentine's Day rose in the history of the flower shop, then tell him quickly, he will meet your romantic requirements, and don't bother to think about whether you like Dianthus caryophyllus or roses, red or yellow.
Love Realm 4: Practical
Actual love? It sounds a bit contradictory. But think about your real life - when you and your boyfriend are discussing buying a new Buick, designing a trip to Hawaii, or deciding which channel to watch, if they often coincide, you will surely marvel at the tacit understanding between you.
If the gender relationship operates normally in this realm, the differences in daily life are resolved before they escalate. Life is so practical that it is important to allow for different understandings of lifestyle. Therefore, it is important to learn to respect each other and seek benefits and avoid harm.
