It's embarrassing for me that my husband is empathizing with his girlfriend but refuses to divorce

[Q]

Last summer, I found my husband chatting with my best friend. At that time, I reminded both of them. At the end of the year, I found the invoice he bought her clothes. At that time, he admitted his mistake and said he would change it later. From then on, we began to live a nominal life. In the past six months, he often sneaks and quarrels.

Last month, I took my child to travel for half a month, and found all the evidence of his cheating on the night I came back.

From this year on, he picked up the woman's commute every day, and the woman's husband also knew.

He was under pressure not to divorce, but now we really don't know how to live.

[Answer]

Extramarital love is the opium of emotion, which is not a good thing, but one person forgets his soul, two people are addicted to it, and they can't extricate themselves after several rounds. Two men and women intoxicated in the love story, when they get along, they put aside all external forces and try to create a sentimental feeling. However, the pain they bring to others and themselves is immeasurable.

What they show to their extramarital lovers is often the other side of their daily life, the more excellent side. They are casual at home and are not afraid to offend their partners or hurt their hearts with a word. However, they treat their extramarital lovers differently from the casual in the family. On the contrary, they are particularly "careful". They will project their desired perfect emotional performance into extramarital affairs, that is, "if there is a bosom friend, I will love like this", with such thoughts, it is hard to part.

However, at the beginning, feelings have wonderful experiences. However, after time, changes have taken place, and it is even difficult for you to detect. Since when, the feelings between you and him have been injected with too many impurities. The people who originally loved each other sometimes even look disgusting.

Why is love sweet, but marriage easy to eat? Living together, it is important to adjust and match the living frequency of two people. It is inevitable that there is not enough time to communicate and care about each other, and feelings are indifferent.

At first, you can trust your friend and husband, but you should also know that the trigger points of feelings are so strange that even a small eye can touch a nerve of the other party, cause a series of chemical reactions and make you feel excited. Of course, most people, facing the opposite sex, are only at this stage. Although they feel good, they will not deliberately strengthen this experience, especially if they have a partner. Behavior is restricted by morality, law and self-cultivation. Not everyone is willing to try dangerous love games. However, if life is not satisfactory and there is a lack of certain aspects, some people will ease the feeling of loss by "looking for emotional replacement".

Do you know what is missing between you and him? You see, you don't need him. Parent-child activities can be used as a starting point to ease your relationship. However, you exclude him and take your children alone to relax. You relieved your depression, but during that time he was more crazy about cheating with "that woman". What does he need? What can I do for you, please? What does this family need? You haven't found the balance yet. He refused to divorce under pressure, which shows that responsibility and morality are still binding on him. Forgiveness is too big a proposition. Before that, first consider how to adjust your mind, re-accept him, and how to warm up your feelings.