Is the purpose of love to get married? Do you create the three major relationships between love and marriage

Most interpretations of the purpose of love tell us that those who do not intend to get married are playing hooligans, but little do we know that love solely for the purpose of getting married is even more playing hooligans. The interpretation of the purpose of love varies from benevolent to wise.

Purpose of Love

Recently, there is a famous saying in the Jianghu that love without the purpose of marriage is all about playing hooligans. Some people swear to quote from Chapter 38, Section 5, and Line 27 of "Quotations from Chairman Mao", but according to NetEase Women's Research, there are only 33 chapters in "Quotations from Chairman Mao" Nowadays, there are many men and women who only fall in love without getting married. According to this logic, male and female hooligans are really running all over the street.

But love is all about love; Marriage is said to be the tomb of love. So, what is the causal relationship between love and marriage?

The Three Relationships of Love and Marriage

1. Get married before falling in love

This is a model created by our elders under specific historical conditions, based on matchmakers' words, parents' orders, and organizational arrangements, usually cultivating emotions after marriage. Due to the marginalization of this model, we will not discuss it today.

2. Love first and then get married

This is the most frequently used and widely promoted model nowadays. Generally, both parties in love participate in dating with the purpose of getting married, and after reaching a certain level, they get married.

3. Love only and not get married

This is the model we are going to discuss today, with fewer users but a clear trend of increasing usage in large cities. The main manifestation is that the parties involved in the relationship do not intend to get married, but are willing to fall in love with the other party. The most obvious difference from the previous one is that the parties have no intention of moving towards marriage since the beginning of their relationship. It is obvious that Song Siming belongs to this category of people, who are in love without the purpose of marriage.

Don't get married, please don't fall in love with me

There are many single people who sign up for marriage with the statement 'Please take marriage as the premise, if you are the one, please do not disturb'. It is because many people agree that love needs to be built on the premise of marriage.

Why do people fall in love? It's because of love. Why do people get married? To make this love complete. If you don't pursue complete love, such a love is just taking what you need. It's definitely not the purest love that comes together because of loneliness, or because of sexual needs.

The statement that 'only cares about what we once had, not about eternity' has harmed generations of young people. The question is, if you don't even plan to get married, isn't this kind of love just a passing game?

Marriage is the form, growing old together is the essence of love

Marriage is just a ritual, not the only outcome for two people who love each other. The most important thing is that the two people who love each other can only love each other for a long time and are willing to gradually grow old together.

Everyone just condenses their desire to stay together in the expectation of marriage, and those hooligans are just a disappointed term for our disloyal lovers on the road of love.

So, the sentence 'love that is not for the purpose of getting married is all playing hooligans' should be changed to' love that is not for the purpose of gradually aging together is playing hooligans'.

Only in love, not in marriage, not in hooliganism; Falling in love without being together forever is the true rogue.

unscramble

It is rumored that Mao Chosen once said, "Love that is not for the purpose of marriage is all playing hooligans!" However, is love that is for the purpose of marriage always good? Like someone, do you like the person themselves, or do you like the possibility that the other person may sleep with you, get married, and have children in the future? Which is playing a hooligan, a love that doesn't require a reason, or a love that only aims to get married? In fact, it is precisely because of those "hooligans" who do not intend to get married that love is truly pure and great.

The meaning of "playing hooligans" has changed: from focusing on loyalty and personal integrity, to focusing on talking about true love. What is "playing hooligans"? Previously, this term roughly meant that as a man or girl, one who is not yet certain of marrying the other person, intentionally makes them fall in love with you, or may even possess the other person's body, and then leaves the other person, causing harm to the other person.

However, this behavior, although regrettable, is not particularly new now. Because today's men and women are more concerned about whether they truly can be happy with this person in the future, rather than losing their feelings (or virginity) at the moment. In order to ultimately kiss a prince or princess, even if it may be necessary to experience some failed emotions, there is no regret or resentment.

This is the mainstream view of love among modern young people - just hope to truly love each other until they meet you, and as for the past Whoever hasn't passed by can do without asking.

In this view of love, as long as we love each other sincerely, both parties know that they cannot marry but still have premarital sex, they can no longer be regarded as hooligans. If there is a trace of falsehood, insincerity and uncertainty in love, it is regarded as hooliganism.

Even if someone has made themselves emotionally and sexually active, at least if Ta leaves when he doesn't love, he won't be trapped in a cage of lovelessness for the rest of his life. I would rather have loved before than live in deceit.

Not loving enough, but using the name of love to trap another person is the true hooliganism.

Great love always requires someone to "play hooligans" first

Two people sincerely love each other, and even if they encounter any obstacles, they cannot stop it. The love that blends with their souls and does not meet these conditions is never a great love. However If a love begins with marriage as the premise, then without the premise of getting married in the future, the love will not begin. This does not meet the condition of 'no obstacle can stop' and cannot be considered a great love.

If we firmly believe that 'love without the purpose of marriage is all playing hooligans', then' love with the necessary purpose of marriage 'cannot be considered a great love because it does not meet the condition of' no obstacle can stop it '.

So, if you want to prove the greatness of love, you must have an unrestricted spirit and boldly "play hooligans" just for pure love. Of course, if you are willing, you can use marriage, which is a socially recognized way to maintain love, but this is a later story.

Love requires one party's initiative.