Is it better for couples to have more sexual intercourse? Be wary of the 5 misconceptions of sexual activity between couples

Five Misunderstandings in Couple Life. Sex is a normal behavior between couples, and sometimes misunderstandings about sex can lead to a lack of passion and even lead to the breakdown of marital life. Here are five misunderstandings in marital life!

1、 Excessive attention to the frequency and frequency of sexual activity

There is a consensus among men that the more sexual activity they have, the more qualified and masculine they are; The more satisfied his wife is, the happier she becomes. On the other hand, fewer husbands are referred to as unable to wait (or handle) wives, which is considered not masculine enough.

In fact, according to expert surveys, most wives do not think so. Compared to sexual life, 78% of wives prioritize emotional communication over the latter. Compared to the quality of sexual life, a simple amount of sexual activity is 85%, and his wife prefers high quality rather than a large amount. In addition, the more men engage in sexual activity, the better. Between the ages of 30 and 35, more than half of husbands have experienced their sexual needs that have actually quietly changed, but have also shifted from a large number of needs to seeking high-quality, deeper emotional communication and experiences. Therefore, if men believe that the frequency of sexual activity is the main or even the only criterion for measuring marital harmony.

2、 Neglecting emotional issues in sexual life

Husbands may ignore or deny their wives' emotional needs, simplify sexual life, and become a series of actions, seriously damaging their wives' personality and emotions.

3、 Invisibly increasing one's psychological burden

Once he gets older or encounters special circumstances that prevent him from maintaining the high frequency he believes, he will suspect himself of suffering from impotence, premature ejaculation, illness, fear of sorry for his wife, and even doubt or disappoint his entire personality and life goals. The stronger the result, the less it can withstand accidents.

4、 Overemphasizing the role of sexual skills

In specific situations, extremely suitable sexual skills can have a beneficial effect. But we cannot forget that sexual skills must have four basic prerequisites:

Firstly, both spouses must be absolutely voluntary and truly in need. Otherwise, it will not only violate the other party's personal dignity, but also cause psychological harm to both parties, and will not have a good effect. Secondly, the marital relationship must be good. Both parties' sexual knowledge and attitudes must be very consistent. Finally, the sexual skills used must undergo rigorous scientific testing and be proven to be applicable in clinical medicine. Any inconsistency in marital relationships and knowledge, as well as any hearsay and a little understanding, can have opposite adverse effects on sexual skills.

It is particularly important that sexual skills themselves cannot create love and care, nor can they fully communicate and communicate. All happy couples know that the most advanced and versatile sexual skills, in fact, are not actions, but hearts, and are the true feelings of as much love, attachment, intimacy, and care as possible, concentrated in sexual life.

5、 The understanding of sexual life is too narrow

In couples' sexual life, men eventually ejaculate, but this is not the entire content of sexual life or its main goal. Sexual activity is a vehicle for expressing love. It must include an early psychological preparation stage, and the quality of the final result largely depends on whether the preparation stage is appropriate and sufficient. Some husbands even view their physiological processes as primary and non adjustable, often resulting in overly urgent, rough, and simple outcomes. They consider sex as a physiological necessity, which will lead to disharmony in the couple's life.