Post Date December, 03 2023
Different, resulting in poor communication. For women, having a prejudice against love will make you a loser of love, intentionally or unintentionally.
In the vast crowd, the person who can fall in love with you must be destined. But can you grasp the right person? No one can be sure. Prejudice is a big stone that is difficult to identify and one of the biggest obstacles in our search. This is related to everyone's different growth background and experience. What's more, there are many different things for different people in the world? Nothing is absolute. Holding this idea will make it less easy for you to miss some good things.
There are many thorns and obstacles in the search for love, one of which is "prejudice". In "Pride and Prejudice", Elizabeth almost missed a good relationship because she made a conclusion about Darcy too early. What are the "love theories" that are easy to make people get into trouble on our love path? Come and see the eight "love blocking" misconceptions that make women love losers!
Prejudice 1: If you love me, you should know my needs!
This theory is only applicable to the aspects that you already know each other. If he cares, he will pay attention to your feelings. You have the responsibility to tell him what he doesn't know. Have something to say. Some thoughts are not clear to you. He is not an immortal. Who can know if you don't say?
Prejudice 2: You can have everything as long as you love each other!
Couples who say this usually have one thing in common - their feelings have been criticized by friends and relatives around them, so they use this sentence to cheer themselves and each other up. However, mutual love is a necessary but not sufficient condition for intimate relationship. Because in the triviality and reality of daily marriage, there are many and complex problems to face together. The concept of "love can replace everything" comes from the young adolescence, because love was big and the world was small at that time. It may be more suitable for those who only love but not marry.
Prejudice 3: Women are born to be spoiled!
You are either a spoiled little princess who has never taken the important lesson of "caring for others", and your focus is on yourself; Or is it a poor child who has lost love since childhood. When he grows up, he will find every opportunity to compensate himself. If his parents don't give him enough love, can't he love himself?
For those girls who are over-committed and have no ego, this sentence should be used to remind them to love themselves more and create more opportunities for others to pay. But if you are already narcissistic, that's another matter. In addition, Watanabe Junichi said that the premise for a man to pay 100% sincerity is that the woman dotes on him 100%.
Prejudice 4: Men are not bad, women do not love
Don't rule out that behind your love for his "bad", there is a kindness to make him better. It is also true that a few lucky girls turn the prodigal son back with kindness and gentleness, while most girls are doomed to fall into the trap of entanglement. Your efforts have failed again and again, and your heart has been gnawed again and again. So consider your ability and endurance, and how long you can tolerate the blow when he tries to test your bottom line.
Prejudice 5: Don't care about eternity, just care about having
It is not so much for love, but rather for the desire to take and possess in the subconscious that drives you to seek strong feelings. Just like children playing with toys, it is as if they have the whole world as soon as they get it. After a while, there was no new idea at all, and then we took aim at new goals. In addition, the sense of competition also plays a role in fuelling the waves. You should prove that you are different and attract the attention of others.
A truly mature relationship is long-term. Love needs full devotion, but if you don't treat this emotion with everlasting heart, then what you once had is just unbearable pain.
Prejudice 6: Men are not good things
Such people either unconsciously inherited the pain transmitted by the family, or passively learned the "lesson" from the unfortunate experience of their girlfriends around them, so that she grew up in the environment of complaining about men, and naturally formed such an idea. At the same time, complaining about men will also bring some benefits to them. On the one hand, she can shirk the responsibility of emotional failure. On the other hand, when dealing with the opposite sex, the other party will pay more attention to their behavior to avoid being cheated by her.
When you meet someone you shouldn't love, this sentence can be used as a shield. But as soon as the scope is expanded, it isolates itself. There is no absolute thing in the world. The best way to find a good man is to be a good enough woman and have the insight to discover the advantages of others.
Prejudice 7: Marriage is the tomb of love
Many people are afraid of intimacy and fear that it will bring misfortune and pain. So we should protect ourselves and find a reason to wander around the besieged city and refuse to step in. Others can't imagine how boring it would be to keep one person all the year round. There are so many wonderful things that have not been experienced and so many possibilities waiting to be realized.
It is not whether you get married, but whether you can always keep the interaction in love. Also, we are all imperfect, so don't expect marriage to be perfect. This theory is not to let you reject marriage, but to accept the fact that it is not perfect!
Prejudice 8: Older men know how to take care of others
"Oedipal complex" is widely used by everyone. Indeed, many girls who were spoiled by their fathers in childhood will rely on older men when they grow up, trying to find and copy the happy times of the past. There are also some girls who see their mothers working "as cows and horses" every day, and listen to their mothers' complaints that their fathers can't take care of others, so they secretly decide not to repeat their mother's pain. At this time, age becomes the condition for choosing a mate.
Taking care of others is determined by a person's growth experience and characteristics, regardless of age. In addition, some people are taken care of meticulously. When they are satisfied, they will feel constrained and feel that they need not only a "father", but also a dynamic partner. At the same time, no matter how old a man is, there is always a "child" waiting for you to pacify. So no matter how different your age is, you also need to be a "mother" from time to time.
When two people are together, both giving and getting are relative. For one party, giving is always expected, and getting comes from one's own giving. For both sides, only if both sides are willing to pay for each other will the relationship between them become more and more profound. People who expect perfect love and ask for it willfully like a child will not be favored by love.
