Post Date December, 02 2023
I have been thinking about these problems for a month, but I haven't understood them. In addition, I can feel schizophrenia, depression and collapse. During this period, I called her to ask her to come back for divorce, and then she put me permanently on the blacklist. I lost dozens of pounds this month. Nobody knows what I look like except my parents and children.
One day, my mother told me that an uncle I knew in our village was insane because her wife ran away from home. I looked down at him from upstairs and suddenly realized that I couldn't be like him. If I were like him, my family would really be ruined, and then I slept for a month.
After that, when I think of those problems, there are various slow movements of mental patients, and then I dare not think about them. But I know that my spirit is abnormal, sometimes good and sometimes bad, and I tend to go to extremes. Except for my mother, I don't believe what anyone says.
I know I'm sick, but I don't have enough money to see it. I don't want to see it. I'm afraid it's not as good as it is now, and I still rely on the drug with side effects. Then I go out to work and work. I work hard every day, and I can sleep well if I work hard. But these problems will still occur in my spare time.
Now there are some problems, and I'm starting to feel sick again. Before the divorce, I said that I should take the child with me. She paid 800 yuan a month. Then when she went through the formalities, she said that she could only pay 300 yuan or 500 yuan. Later, when I was angry, I didn't write to ask her to pay for the child's living expenses. I said that you didn't pay for the living expenses and you didn't need to see the child.
Yesterday she asked me to have a baby, and he wanted to take it for a few days. I replied to her that you should not disturb our lives in this life, and then blackmail her. This sentence was seen by my mother and said to my aunt, and then relatives said to me, was it wrong for me to do this?
Originally, I should leave for work. I was afraid that she would take the child away after I left. It was very tangled and tangled. Why did I always think wrong? How could she treat me too much? When I made a decision, I was wrong. The child always said that she would not take it. In 730 days, she did not call the child, even if she bought a pencil and a schoolbag.
I bought a watch and phone for my child. I just wanted her to call the child alone. I said I didn't agree, but I asked my mother to give her the number. I haven't called a phone until today. I worked outside for half a year. I said I was afraid I knew that was the reason? Why can a woman's unkindness make people understand that a little bit of selfishness is a big mistake for a man?
I can feel that I'm going to collapse again. Every time, there are a lot of problems that I can't figure out, and there is no confidant to guide me. My family is full of people with low EQ and can't enlighten. It is very expensive to find a psychologist. The side effects of taking medicine are very big, and it will be destroyed once I eat it. Do people like me deserve this kind of torture?
reply:
1. How many men and women have been trapped in the besieged city of marriage in the storm of life and unpredictable changes? How many people will be happy or cry, or sad or sad. There is no way. Any marriage has risks, and there is inevitably the possibility of facing difficulties. Marriage cannot escape the true nature of the community of interests, and the interweaving of love and hate is often its original state. The people in the besieged city still need to carry their joys and sorrows and emotional disputes slowly, heal their wounds slowly, and find a way out.
2. As a man, the burden on his shoulders is very heavy. He should take into account the various roles he plays in life and try to play each role well. Therefore, you need to be strong, stand up to the sky, have blood and be a man, and the most important thing is to take responsibility. Therefore, when you encounter some misfortunes, you need a firm heart to face the difficulties. Marriage is an important barrier for a man's life and career. It is very important to have a successful and complete marriage. However, whoever dares to say that there is no problem in their marriage, once there is a problem, they should find ways to deal with it. What can break down? No matter how difficult the problem is, it will be solved. Now that you know that you are in a very bad state, you should consciously adjust yourself, defeat yourself, and make yourself the most powerful support.
3. It is not clear whether your divorce farce has reached the point where the dust has settled, that is, to complete all the formalities and complete the final divorce procedure. Your wife may not be able to stand your hysteria. She and you haggle over the child support. It means that she has to face up to her own interests when divorce becomes a reality. Since marriage is hopeless, she also starts to fight for her own interests. This is the truth of human nature. Second, it may indicate that she really does not want her child to leave her, and use this change of mind as a check and balance condition and chip to urge you to voluntarily give the child to her, and then you will pay the maintenance fee.
4. What needs to be corrected is that after divorce, no matter who the child follows, both men and women have the right to visit the child. It is impossible for you not to let the child's mother and her own flesh and blood never intersect. For this reason, your impulse and anger can only be impulse. Your later performance is very good, that is, you bought a phone for your child, and in the bone hope that the child can wait for the greetings and care from his mother. However, this woman may be really cruel sometimes, or because of her accumulated resentment towards you, she did not contact. In any case, this woman's failure is her dereliction of duty, and you just have to do yourself well and do your father's duty.
5. Don't think so much, and don't vent your unhappiness on others. At the moment, what you need most is to see, see clearly, see clearly, right and wrong are no longer important. It is more urgent to deal with everything in front of you. In particular, you need to adjust your mentality and don't really let yourself fall into a sick state. If you really feel that you can't control your mood and have the feeling of depression and collapse, you should go to the local psychological clinic as soon as possible to consult first, so as to prevent the trouble before it happens. The high cost of seeing a doctor and the lack of money are not the reasons for refusing to consult and treat. The method is always thought of by people. They will always overcome the difficulties in front of them. I wish you good luck.
