Post Date December, 03 2023
I have been married to my husband for ten years and have a child, but my relationship has been tepid.
I have a traditional mindset, a weak personality, and am not good at rejecting or resisting.
When I was pregnant, my husband had an affair with a nightclub girl. When I found out, I was very sad, but I didn't blame him. It was still my mother-in-law who saw my eyes red and asked me why, before I exposed my husband's embarrassing situation. After being reprimanded by her mother-in-law, her husband settled down for a year or two.
"I foolishly thought that my husband would be more restrained after becoming a father, but I was wrong.". "He doesn't even sleep with me anymore, and he doesn't think his child is crying at night.".
At that time, I had to go to work and take care of the children with my mother-in-law. In the face of my husband's occasional late return, I was dissatisfied but powerless to argue.
After my child went to kindergarten, I tried to restore a relationship with my husband, but he always made a hasty decision and rested in the other bedroom after finishing, refusing to share the bed with me.
It was the third person who came to my door and scolded my husband for being a liar that I realized that he had betrayed me again.
After this happened, the mother-in-law made three rules for her husband: Be home before 19:00 every day; Friends or classmates must bring me to parties; The child sleeps with her mother-in-law at night, and her husband can no longer share the room with me.
Last year, my mother-in-law died of illness, and my father-in-law couldn't manage her husband. He was like a bird out of a cage, not only flirting with many women, but even taking an unmarried woman from other places home to live with. Every night, he openly shared the same bedroom with that woman.
I don't want my parents to worry about me. I didn't dare tell them about it.
My father-in-law has preached to my husband countless times, and my husband and I have talked good and bad countless times, all to no avail.
Although I am weak, I also have a bottom line in life. Nowadays, my husband has broken my heart and I don't want to stay at this house for a second. In the face of my father-in-law's retention and children's crying, my heart softened again and again.
Faced with my beast husband, I'm going crazy and don't know what to do.
Re:
What is tolerance? That is, to forgive those around you for their unethical mistakes. "And you, faced with your husband being so abusive, continue to stutter in your marriage, that's silly.".
In the current situation, not only does your husband despise you too much, I think you have a bit of contempt for yourself. I dare to ask, why do you have to be so cowardly.
"You are actually a person who understands, but you don't know how to refuse and choose. For this reason, you have lived such a miserable life.".
What I want to say to you is that anyone who leaves can live, and it may be better to live.
Suggestion: Divorce. The reasons are as follows:
1、 "What a shame is it for you to live in your house as a flesh and blood person?"?
2、 Don't treat your child like a child anymore. He watches his father sleep in the same bed with a woman who has nothing to do with him every day. Do you think it has no impact on the child's growth?
3、 "You are now simply widowed. The key is to suffer from heart damage while not counting on your husband.". Think about what your husband has done for the family over the years, and what you have maintained is just a shell of marriage. What is the difference between living alone and you?
4、 Evidence of your husband's infidelity is too easy to collect. As long as you stop being soft hearted and pass the judicial process, your divorce judgment will be quickly obtained. Strive for the custody of children and maximize the division of property.
5、 "With your personality and your husband's demeanor, if you continue to marry, it will only cause you more harm. Get divorced earlier, and be freed earlier.".
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
