Post Date December, 03 2023
I always feel strange when my husband looks at the opposite sex. He always likes to look at the opposite sex from head to foot, which makes me very disgusted.
The sight of his eyes at the opposite sex made me feel sick and felt that he was a frivolous person. We quarreled several times for this matter. He said that he was used to it. He said that women are beautiful scenery, but there is no other meaning to appreciate, but I am still very uncomfortable. Now, I really don't want to go out with him.
The last time his colleague found a wife 10 years younger, he told me several times. Yesterday we met his colleague again. I saw my husband looking up and down behind his colleague's wife. This makes my heart very uncomfortable. I'm really sad.
Also, I am a very lively and cheerful person. Every time I attend his colleague's party, I am always very active, talking and laughing with everyone, but he thinks I am talkative and talkative. I think they are all young people. What's the matter with a more active atmosphere? His attitude is hard for me to accept. I decided not to participate in the activities of his colleagues in the future.
I don't know whether I am not confident or what. In fact, I am a cute type. We also have lovely babies, but I still look like a little girl. I also have a very decent job. I always think he should cherish me, but when I see his frivolous appearance, my heart is like a knife, I think he is eating from the pot and looking at the bowl.
Do you think I have psychological problems? I'm really upset.
Reply:
"He always likes to look at the opposite sex from head to foot." I can imagine that, because I often see this phenomenon.
You should know that men are visual animals, and there are few people who walk on the street without looking at women. If they do not look, it means that they have a problem. As for how to look, it is only the face, only the chest, only the legs, or the whole body. Everyone is different.
If you want him to experience your anxiety, you can also look at other men, and even praise other men while watching to see how he reacts. But I think, if you can laugh and appreciate with him, and see if there will be different results compared with resentment?
I have a good friend. Sometimes when my husband and I see a hot lady on the street, they often laugh at her husband and invite her husband to enjoy with her. Sometimes it makes the gentleman feel embarrassed.
In fact, the women walking on the street are a scenic line in themselves. Their dress, sexy or timely, has little self-appreciation and is mainly to earn others' attention.
I guess you are a lively woman. Think about it, will your husband fall in love with you at the same time? Only when there are certain differences between husband and wife can they show their attraction to each other. Although he looks at the opposite sex in this way, maybe he will be cautious in everything. Is this also one of his characteristics?
If no matter what he thinks, you can still be confident and calm. You can not only worry about his feelings, but also let your lively nature play out. I think it is how to balance and communicate.
More appreciation, less complaints, and happiness lies in your inner calm and feelings.
