Post Date December, 03 2023
I have had a relationship with my husband for seventeen years. I always make decisions about big and small things at home. This is not because I have a strong personality and a big woman's mind, but because my husband is such a "face" person. He has an indispensable attitude towards everything. I don't know how to fight, and I never thought about changing.
In this situation, I can only rely on myself. Anyway, when asked for her husband's opinion, he would always say 'okay, that's it.' He couldn't come up with any valuable suggestions. So gradually, I became accustomed to making decisions on my own. If I could remember it later, I would tell him, but if I couldn't remember it, I would let it go. At first, I felt very tired, but later I got used to it. After all these years, I haven't felt anything wrong. I've already passed the stage of being 'angry and not arguing'. Life is ordinary and light, but I think this is the life of most ordinary people. Happiness is not just being immersed in a honeypot. No illness or disaster is also a blessing.
But I didn't expect my husband to think otherwise. If it weren't for that incident, I wouldn't have known. It turned out that his resistance towards me was so strong.
I was shocked when I discovered that there were women outside of him. I can't imagine him betraying me. I think he must have been tempted. I followed him and learned about the woman's residence. Then one day, I separated him and went to find that woman alone.
At first, the woman thought I was looking for the wrong person when she saw me standing outside the door. When I explained my identity, her face was a bit uncomfortable, but she quickly calmed down and said, 'Just in time, if you don't come to me, I'll also go find you. Come in and sit down and have a conversation.'.
She said she loved my husband and even divorced him.
I said it's great, you look very determined, but I'm sorry, my husband may have played a game on you because in fact, he's still keeping it from me and hasn't even mentioned divorce. Do you still firmly believe that he will leave me to live with you like this?
The woman looked at me with a pitiful gaze and said, 'You don't understand what he wants. If you don't understand anything, come here to argue with me. It's ridiculous.'.
My blood surged and I slapped her in the face. Stand up and point at her and start cursing. This shameless third party, robbing me of a man and pretending that she did nothing wrong. I'll wake her up by scolding.
I was actually a bit off guard that day. I remember when I was excited, I opened the door and pulled her hair out, asking her neighbors to see what kind of person this woman was. It was true that a few passersby saw this woman pointing and whispering, saying that her divorce was really due to a man. Now her wife is knocking on her door.
Perhaps she felt embarrassed and disheartened, but after that, she seemed unwilling to see my husband again. When my husband came to question me in a fit of anger, I knew that I had won the battle against Xiao San. What is needed now is to sort out the relationship between me and him.
He asked me what I wanted to do to let him go.
I replied to him, 'I don't want to do anything. Please respect me, respect this family, and don't be tempted outside.'.
He actually asked back in disgust, asking me to respect you? But have you ever respected me? Do you consider me a part of this family?! You think you look down on me, I don't know!!
I can't speak, I don't know why he has such thoughts.
He said that only when she understands me can I experience the joy of being a man with her. You even want to deprive me of this happiness. Do you know that I will cheat completely because of you! If you drive her away, I won't stay at this house either!
I just started to be afraid at this moment. I never thought that the life I had created would bring him so much pressure, and he never said he had been holding back. I don't want to lose him, I'm holding him back and not letting him go. For the first time, I began to realize that perhaps my approach all along was not appropriate.
[Comment]
You think you have given everything and put in all your effort for this family, but in the eyes of men, you think you are right. Those accusations that come out of your mouth when you're angry, not only do you remember them in your heart, but he also hates them in his heart! So, he wants to cheat and prove that he is not the useless man you mentioned
The top priority is to cut off the emotional connection between husband and mistress, and then spend time and effort repairing the emotional trauma accumulated over the years during marriage.
