Post Date December, 02 2023
In marriage, whether two people have complementary or similar personalities, as long as two people are compatible, then the marriage can be safe and sound. However, if one party's personality is too straightforward and they constantly provoke the other party, or do not give the other party any room for self-esteem, then in the long run, the marriage will definitely be severely damaged. So how can a person with a straight personality save their marriage?
1、 First, recognize yourself
The reason why you have a straight personality is not that you are not good, but that it is easy to hurt others and yourself. The reason for being too straightforward is because there are not enough setbacks and experiences in life. Not knowing how to use softness to overcome hardness and not understanding gentleness is actually the greatest energy. Sometimes you have a straight personality because you don't think it's a mistake to be too straight. To be honest, it's just a bit too selfish. Perhaps you think your personality is straight, but some of your words are often easy to hurt others. So much so that others keep a respectful distance from you. Sometimes a person's happiness also depends on whether they can get along well with the people around them. If you are always too straightforward to tolerate the other person's shortcomings and do not know how to maintain their self-esteem, it will create many problems with them.
2、 Learn to empathize and think
Sometimes calm down and think about what kind of personality you like. Anyway, you must like people who are passionate, beautiful, sincere, kind, and gentle. There is a saying that goes: 'Hard but easy to break'. If a person is too straightforward, they will not understand the thoughts of others. So sometimes it's important to understand empathy in life, especially in marriage. If you tell the other person everything you want, they will definitely have some thoughts on what you say. For example, some women often hesitate to say they are getting divorced. You may not really want to get divorced, but after all, one day the other party may actually divorce you. Sometimes you may feel tired and complain, but you often become a habit of complaining, and the other person doesn't even bother to talk to you because they think you are the kind of person.
3、 Understand to be half drunk and half awake in marriage
In marriage, it doesn't mean you have to explain everything to the other party one by one. Because since we have come together, there must be a certain tacit understanding between us. There are some things to say and some things not to say, you need to distinguish yourself. If you excessively express yourself, it will make the other party feel that there is no sense of existence. So in marriage, one should also have reservations about the other party and let them express more opinions. For example, if you can't stand your family, don't always talk to them in front of them. You can have your attitude, but don't always embarrass the other party. At the same time, if you are not used to a certain aspect of the other party, you should also find ways to coordinate, rather than blindly blaming and complaining. There is still a sense of mystery in marriage, leaving half sober and half drunk
So, we suggest that individuals with a straight personality should try to give more say to the other party in their marriage. Otherwise, you hurt the other party while you are completely unaware of it. In the long run, it will inevitably destroy the relationship between you and the other party. The small things in marriage often accumulate into major events where family conflicts erupt. So, learn to be tactful and also appear to have some connotation.
