Post Date December, 03 2023
Before getting married, most young people nowadays have experienced one or even several relationships. For men and women who have experienced a first time breakup, it is difficult for them to overcome this hurdle. Some people have paid a heavy price for it because they cannot take it easy. So how to get out of a broken relationship? Has also become the focus of many people. Choosing the right treatment for emotional injury can minimize the injury. The following four major treatments are worth learning from.
Vent one's distress
"When anyone, whether ordinary or heroic, encounters a failure in love, it is inevitable that their heroism will be short-lived and their tears will fall on their clothes.". "At this point, if you want to cry but don't dare to cry, you may even force a smile. On the surface, it seems to be" heroic ", but in fact, it is very harmful to your body and mind.". Anyone should have the right to cry, especially when they are brokenhearted. Those who cannot cry in front of everyone should also find a place to cry bitterly in private; Those who are not accustomed to crying loudly may as well let their tears flow out as much as possible.
The Good Use of Emotional Freezing in Secondary Attraction
After a breakup, persistent fighting and even well-known behaviors can only lead to resentment and endless disgust from the other party. At this time, you all need to calm down and let time wash away some of the unhappiness. Emotional expert Connor said that after a breakup, both men and women can't help but observe each other's dynamics, and if the other person lives better than themselves, they will regret the decision to break up.
Focus on self improvement
Emotional freezing, as the name implies, is not to give oneself too high emotional needs. You should not only accept the fact of breaking up, but also dare to face up to your own problems. Strengthening self improvement and making yourself better during the freezing period is the biggest effect of emotional freezing. "All the reasons for breaking up are fake. Inconsistent personality, bad attitude, no feelings, parents' disagreement, and so on are all excuses. The only reason for breaking up is lack of attractiveness." To make the other person regret, you need capital and leverage: positive self improvement and overall improvement.
Mindset is more important than method
When it comes to recovery, there are countless techniques and methods, but these alone are far from enough. If you always come into contact with the other person with an urgent heart, you will completely expose your sense of need. "The purpose of redemption is to transform passivity into initiative, allowing the retrieved party to be attracted to you again, thereby actively seeking reconciliation. The strength of the sense of need has a certain relationship with the position in the relationship, and the stronger the sense of need, the more able it is to grasp the initiative."
After a breakup, you can focus on cultivating your interests. Some people will cry loudly every day for a short period of time. In fact, this is a normal psychological catharsis. As long as the breakup lasts a long time, most people will learn to let go. If it's really not appropriate for two people to be together, we should treat the breakup rationally, and it's better to have a long pain than a short one. Whether men or women want to have a better spouse, striving to improve themselves is the king's way.
