Post Date December, 03 2023
Recently, online reports claimed that the news of "husband and wife being separated for two years, and husband getting sick and suing wife for medical expenses" has attracted high attention and heated discussion among friends. Nowadays, most couples face a marital life of separation, which over time has led to a series of social problems. So, how to deal with the emotional challenge of living apart from two places? Today, experts will give you advice on how to deal with the emotional challenge of living apart.
There are signs that the world is ushering in an era of high separation rates between couples. In the United States, at least 3.5 million people involuntarily separate from their spouses; In Germany, 12% of married couples are separated from other places, compared to only 6% 20 years ago; In China, there are more and more "weekend couples", "month end couples", and even "season end couples" in cities such as Beijing and Shanghai
Regarding this, a French magazine published an article stating: "Whether you are willing or not, when you have to live apart due to various reasons such as work or education, you need to actively face it, strive to care for and continue your marriage and relationship." Several French marriage counseling experts have also provided solutions to the problems faced by separated individuals.
Separation between two places faces three major challenges:
Challenge 1: Poor communication. When the other party is not around, encountering problems may not be resolved in a timely manner due to the inconsistency of time and space. Over time, it is easy to create barriers and misunderstandings, making each other unfamiliar and lacking in understanding.
Challenge 2: Different ideas. When you reminisce about the good times of the past and look forward to the sweet words of the other person, they may be thinking about what to eat out later. The ideal scene collapses in front of reality, and the accompanying sense of loss and pessimism will cast a shadow over distant marriages.
Challenge 3: Sexual dissatisfaction. If sexual activity is not satisfactory in two separate places, it is likely to be tempted by a third party. If one side harbors suspicion, the hard-earned relationship will quickly evaporate.
Response methods for couples living separately in two places:
1. Trust. This is the master key to maintaining a good relationship, believing in the other person can help you avoid tossing and turning around and daydreaming at night. With trust, you won't feel nervous about who the other person sees or eats with.
2. Contact daily. Although hugs and kisses are out of reach, sweet words can be transmitted through radio waves. Try to contact every day as much as possible, and it's best to choose a video. Occasionally, you can also write a long letter to send your thoughts remotely.
3. Cultivate tacit understanding. Frequently telling small jokes and giving each other nicknames is another manifestation of a happy marriage. Even if separated from each other, this joy and intimacy will not diminish, because love keeps you apart.
4. Maintain a pace of life. Although your partner is not around, it is important to keep your life running smoothly and let them know your rhythm. Both parties will feel at ease and accustomed to it.
5. Give the green light for meeting. Once you have the opportunity to reunite with your partner, you must seize the opportunity and let overtime and socializing stand aside. This is a crucial moment to consolidate marriage and confirm the importance of each other.
6. Meet regularly. If the distance is close, it is best to schedule a meeting time every week or month; If the distance is too far, it's best to see the last time in 3 months. Plan your meeting and prepare carefully for it. Take care of your marriage with your own love, care about the only person in the world who sleeps with you, and happiness will surely continue.
The above is a detailed introduction on how to deal with the emotional challenges of living apart from two places. In daily life, friends can learn more about gender related knowledge and actively manage their own marriage, in order to better maintain marital relationships and family life!
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
