Post Date December, 02 2023
In the process of the long cold war, men have gradually formed "antibodies" to deal with the cold war. You are cold, so am I; If you don't compromise, I won't make peace. Once this is the case, it is difficult for women to take advantage of the cold war. Instead, it cools the hearts of men and affects the feelings of both sides. In the long run, breaking up is a matter of time.
For many couples, when they are in conflict, the most direct way to vent is not to "fight", but to launch a cold war.
When two people have conflicts, one side takes the lead in posing as "I will never pay attention to you again". At the same time, the other side thinks "I will pay attention to you if I don't pay attention to you. Who is afraid of you". Neither side shows weakness nor compromise, so the cold war broke out.
"When I speak to her, she is always silent; she occasionally looks at me, but her eyes are cold, and she will not stay on me for too long; she works, eats, and sleeps separately from me, and sometimes she would rather be late than take the same bus with me..." Every cold war, one of my friends will complain to me privately, "She will never quarrel with me, but she is always indifferent to what I said. She has been doing this for more than a year, and sometimes I don't even know where I am wrong."
If he refused to pay for her bag and clothes, his girlfriend would have a cold war with him; I can't bear to see him late, and my girlfriend also has a cold war with him; Later, when the two people lived together, the number of cold wars increased, ranging from buying cars and houses to eating and watching TV. My friend and girlfriend have been dating for 4 years, but I didn't expect to be "killed" in the cold war.
At the beginning of the cold war, the woman just wanted to punish her boyfriend. She thought that when he could not bear it, she would admit her mistake to herself. Yes, this method may work twice at a time. If it is used many times, it will not work.
In the process of the long cold war, men have gradually formed "antibodies" to deal with the cold war. You are cold, so am I; If you don't compromise, I won't make peace. Once this is the case, it is difficult for women to take advantage of the cold war. Instead, it cools the hearts of men and affects the feelings of both sides. In the long run, breaking up is a matter of time.
From the letters from netizens, I can always see that men and women in the cold war, no matter which side, will feel extremely sad, angry and helpless, some will complicate the problem, and some even think of breaking up.
Undoubtedly, the cold war is traumatic: the two people give up communication and have no way to vent their emotions. While punishing each other in a cold way, they also torture themselves; The avoidance of conflict between the two people does not mean that the conflict can be completely resolved. Without effective communication, the conflict is still a time bomb and will erupt sooner or later.
The timing and scale of the cold war
In dealing with some bad habits of men, if you can't make sense of them and appeal to them, you can't let them stop shouting. At this time, you might as well try the cold war to let them stop. However, if you deliberately use the cold war to make the other party correct some bad habits, you should also look at the timing and grasp the scale.
First of all, let the other party know what you are indifferent to him. If he is often late for appointments, you should take advantage of his being late for a certain time to get into a stalemate with him, instead of arguing with him about what to eat for dinner, involving the late thing, so the more you think about it, the more you hold your breath, and then you want to fight with him.
The cold war is not a disorderly war, and a targeted war can help him better correct his mistakes.
The cold war broke out, and the next thing you need to control is the scale of the cold war. When and how to end the show must be calculated in advance.
Don't meet him, but you should make sure to turn on the phone 24 hours a day so that he can find you at any time; Don't talk to him, but you can express your feelings through other ways to let him understand the reason for your anger, such as qq status, blog, microblog or friends' mouth, to avoid his random speculation and make the gap deeper and deeper. If he takes the initiative to compromise with you, you should also give him a step to explain and correct.
