Post Date December, 02 2023
Extramarital love, which was once an unforgivable mistake in the eyes of Chinese people, is becoming more and more common in men. A considerable number of people think that it is the "standard" for successful men. Men increasingly think that it is not a big "mistake". This is the nature of men. No matter what men think, smart women should learn to cope with the marriage crisis.
Always trying to save men
First of all, why does extramarital love happen? In a word, when an extramarital affair occurs, most men are fond of both the new and the old, that is, "the red flag at home does not fall, but the colored flag floats outside". Once the husband's "east window incident" occurs, the wife often targets the third party and forgives him, and even uses double tenderness to influence the husband in order to make him repent and "abandon the new and return to the old".
Women's cheating is more harmful
The husband and wife have extramarital love. Although some husbands are not compatible with their wives' temperament, because their wives usually act as virtuous helpers and have no fault, they can't bear to hurt the weak first wife, or under the pressure of norms, they will not easily rush out of the marriage wall. However, women who have extramarital affairs often like the new and hate the old, and their body and mind will automatically reject their existing husbands. Therefore, women's extramarital affairs have a greater impact on marriage.
The derailer always looks for reasons
Many people feel that "compensation is not enough within marriage". People who have extramarital love will always give their cheating a seemingly appropriate reason, such as many conflicts between husband and wife, disharmonious sexual life, etc. When they encounter these problems, they are lazy to solve or do not know how to solve them. It is easier to escape from reality and find a "gentle hometown".
Both husband and wife should learn how to keep their feelings fresh and avoid the "Peach Blossom Robbery" in marriage. In marriage life, three principles must be grasped. These three methods can help relieve the "crisis" in marriage.
Three principles of communication between men and women
It is important for couples to maintain effective communication. First, respect each other, listen carefully, and then fully express your true feelings and ideas. In the face of differences, we should not complain, blame and order, especially discuss who is right and who is wrong.
The crisis in marriage comes more from the small things in daily life. When the number of vitiligo and conflicts among the quarrelling boys increases, and one of the couples does not want to stay at home more, the crisis has come. At this time, we should deal with the conflicts in a timely manner. If necessary, we should ask professionals for help.
There is also privacy between husband and wife. Don't always look at each other's mobile phones, and don't always "check the post". It is often very sad not to trust each other. Therefore, both husband and wife should have free spiritual space.
Don't cry, don't make a sound response
As long as one of the couples has an extramarital affair and is known by the other party, a big war at home is inevitable. Most women's infidelity to their husbands is mainly manifested as crying, making noise and hanging. In fact, the more violent the infidelity, the more often they will not choose to divorce; On the contrary, men can't tolerate the mistakes made by their wives, let alone accept the "green hat". More than 80% of them will choose to divorce.
How to deal with smart women
If after an extramarital affair, both husband and wife hope to save the marriage, then we should do the following: Don't get involved in this matter. No matter what the other party says, convince yourself to believe him (her). It is better to have a marriage consultation, which not only gives the other party but also gives yourself an opportunity to deal with problems. Don't attack the third party, because you belittle the person he likes. If you belittle him, he will have no guilt. Don't spread it everywhere, don't cry to relatives, friends and leaders of the unit. It's the privacy of the couple. Otherwise, the cheating party has no way back, only divorce. Take care of yourself and shift your attention to other things. Show your attitude appropriately. Don't keep a straight face, let alone cry. You can tell the cheating party that you have been hurt, but don't pursue his (her) past mistakes to make the other party feel the warmth of home.
