Post Date December, 03 2023
Moderator: No matter boys or girls, it is not good to have a strong sense of need for each other. It is also not good to be too cold. It may just drop the pass. Where is the degree?
An Xiaoyao: In fact, chat with girls at the same frequency. Even if you send a message, the girl will return to you every three minutes, and you will return to her every three minutes. The girl will return to you every one hour, and you will return to her every one hour.
Then when the frequency of girls' replies is getting faster and faster, you should also speed up the frequency appropriately, instead of sending them one by one. What is chat? Chat is where you come and go. And when chatting with girls as much as possible, don't send too many words at one time, and send a large draft to girls.
Host: How often do boys talk to girls and send messages to her?
Xinlei: I don't think there is a special plan for how long it is suitable. Someone would say that adding a girl will not be contacted within three days. Later, I asked some girls, and they said that if a boy accosted me and added me for three days, but didn't talk to me, I would never talk to him after three days.
An Xiaoyao: Not three days, one day.
After a guy accosted me, if he still doesn't contact me for more than six hours, then I think he must be fishing. He must be fishing in the net, so I don't care if he is really like this, or if he has something delayed, I will directly pull black.
Xinlei: Yes.
One of the methods mentioned by the little demon just now is the same frequency. I would recommend another method. When you chat with girls on WeChat, take the initiative to end the topic at a good time. For example, we talk normally. When the atmosphere is good, I say
"Wait, I have a meeting to hold now"
I left, and I went to take the initiative to end this topic
Of course, it may be uncomfortable from the girl's heart at this moment. It doesn't matter, because you have to do another thing. You can call her at intervals and ask her out. Believe me, don't expect anything at this time. I often do this. I tell girls,
"I'm in Sanlitun. Why don't you come and have a drink?"
Basically, 100% of girls will refuse you. Of course, I don't want her to come, because I am at home at the moment, wearing shorts. But what you do is to give a signal to girls, that is to say
An Xiaoyao: "Hello, Xinlei. I'm in Sanlitun, too. Where are you?"
Xinlei: This is also the case. I will say,
"I'm with a friend now. Wait for me for 30 minutes"
Moderator: Change your underpants immediately.
Xinlei: Yes, change your underpants and start.
Back to what I said just now, although you are cold in interaction, you will make the girl feel that the boy has me in his heart, or that he is interested in me, that is, you make the girl feel that you are OK, you are not indifferent to me, you are not bored.
Another point is that you interact with girls when you are in good condition, not to mention lying at home and returning home. It is so boring. You want to chat with someone, and then you go to chat with girls. It is meaningless. Because at this time, to be frank, you will only pass on your boredom to this woman, and this woman will also feel bored.
When you interact with girls, it should be, I am interesting, I find some interesting things, and then I go to chat with girls instead of saying nothing. This is for the initial stage of interaction with girls. In the middle stage, your interaction will continue to increase and become closer.
An Xiaoyao: In the middle and late stage, they are basically lying at home
"How boring! What are you doing?"
"I'm bored too, bored together"
Xinlei: The later you are, the closer your interaction will be, but you should not keep this pace. Later, you can take the risk of exposing your sense of need, but at the beginning, you should let the girl guess
What does the boy think
He asked me again
But don't talk to me
What exactly does it mean
An Xiaoyao: There is one more thing to add about the departure just now. Many boys and girls will talk. They must talk until there is no topic and both sides are in a very awkward situation before they want to leave. Don't wait until you are dead talking with girls. It's about 15 to 30 minutes, you can say
"I have a meeting here. Talk later"
You can not even reply to her without saying a word, but don't use it too many times, otherwise the girl will feel that the boy is very unreasonable.
You are busy with your business, because you know that the girl's state is very good, and you have kept that state, and then you go to say it every three hours or half a day,
"I was busy just now. That's good. Let's go together another day."
Wait, wait. This is the perfect connection of your last topic, and it also prevents you from going to chat with a girl because of boredom. You also have to start a topic by yourself, which will make the girl feel that when you look at him, he will come to me and miss me again.
This way, I have just been too busy to reply to you. Now I reply to you. Girls will also feel that he actually has his own business to do. He also remembers returning a WeChat to me after he was busy. Even if you were idle for a few hours, you should not tell her, nor should you continue to talk continuously. There are so many topics between men and women. What will you talk about tomorrow after you finish talking at one time?
Teng Jingyu: In fact, there are a lot of boys who will talk to girls all the time. It should be insecure. He is afraid that the girl doesn't like him, so just like the teacher Xiaoyao said.
Xinlei: Yes, in fact, it is very simple to explain this matter. You can't solve the problem of your sense of security by talking to a woman on WeChat for three months. You still have no sense of security after talking to a woman for three months. You will only feel more and more insecure because you will feel that I really have nothing to say with her and will become more and more insecure. The most effective is like fighting
