Post Date December, 03 2023
The recent census in the United States confirmed a fact that most people already know - the divorce demography is indeed rising. Faced with almost half of marriages ending in divorce, many couples are preparing to reassess their relationship with their spouse. But before you start evaluating and analyzing hastily, you must first distinguish between the following misunderstandings and facts about marriage, in order to avoid falling into the trap and destroying a happy marriage.
Myth 1: Married people have lower levels of satisfaction with their sexual life and have fewer sexual experiences than single people.
According to a large-scale national study, married individuals generally have more and better sexual lives than unmarried individuals. They not only have more sexual activity, but also enjoy it more, both physically and mentally.
Misunderstanding 2: Couples who cohabit before marriage and are able to measure their suitability for each other in this way have a more satisfactory and lasting marriage than couples who do not.
Many studies have shown that those who cohabit before marriage are more likely to have unsatisfied marriages and a much higher divorce demography. The reason is that unmarried cohabitants may be more timid and more likely to choose to give up when problems arise.
Myth 3: Having children usually makes the relationship between spouses more intimate and increases the happiness of marriage.
Many studies have shown that the arrival of the first baby in a family often leads to a more distant relationship between parents and puts pressure on marriage. However, the divorce demography of couples with children is slightly lower than that of couples without children.
Myth 4: The higher the education level of women, the lower their probability of getting married.
A recent study on marriage in the mid-1990s concluded that women with a college degree are more likely to get married than their peers who have not attended college, although they are generally older when they first get married. This is a significant change compared to the past.
Myth 5: People can no longer just stay in one marriage for their entire lives as before, because people's lifespan is much longer now than before.
The above statement has no basis. In fact, the time span of a typical marriage has not changed much in the past 50 years.
Myth 6: Compared to staying single, getting married is more likely to put women at risk of domestic violence.
Numerous studies have shown that unmarried women, especially those who cohabit with men unmarried, have a significant risk of being associated with domestic violence. One reason is that men do not want domestic violence to exist because they are more concerned about their wives' health and are more willing to integrate into the extended family and the entire community, and these social forces help to curb men's violent behavior.
Myth 7: Living together is actually like getting married, it's just that there's no paper available.
Obviously, cohabitation sometimes does not bring the benefits that marriage can bring - physical health, wealth, and spiritual pleasure, among others. Because cohabitants often place more emphasis on personal interests and personality, and less consideration is given to the interests of the other party.
Myth 8: Because of the high divorce demography, people still under siege are happier than couples in the past.
The survey results show that people's level of happiness in marriage has not increased, but has slightly decreased. Some studies have found that existing marriages bear more work pressure, more marital conflicts, and less communication compared to those 20 to 30 years ago.
Myth 9: Men benefit much more from marriage than women.
Recent research has found that although men and women approach marriage in different ways, the benefits they receive from marriage are equivalent. When two people get married, both men and women live longer, are happier, healthier, and wealthier.
Myth 10: The key to long-term marital happiness lies in good luck and romantic love.
Not just luck and love, the most common reasons given by most couples to maintain long-term happiness in their marriage are commitment and friendship. They define their marriage as hard work, dedication, and commitment. The happiest couple are friends who can share life, interests, and values that align.
