Post Date December, 03 2023
Gender marriage: embarrassing marriage between old wife and young husband
He married a wife 20 years older than himself. When he married, he was 23 years old and she was 43 years old. Her son was only one year younger than him. Now, after 10 years of marriage, their marriage is difficult to continue.
The appearance of Gulo is the appearance of an ordinary man of this age, which should be considered as the image of "holding hands". He showed me pictures of his wife in the past few years. Look at his wife in the picture, and then look at him in front of him. It is self-evident that there is a huge gap in appearance between the old wife and the young husband who are 20 years old.
She's the boss, I'm the guy
When I met Xuezhen, I worked as a cook in a small restaurant. She went through the early retirement procedure from her company and opened a restaurant in that area. Her husband died in a car accident the year before. She managed the restaurant alone. It was very difficult and business was not good.
Later, Xuezhen dug me up. My craftsmanship is good. Her restaurant's business is getting better immediately. At the best time, the net profit of a month is more than 10000 yuan.
Xuezhen has a son, Yan Feng (alias), who is only one year younger than me. Yan Feng is not very obedient and always annoys Xue Zhen. After I went, Xuezhen often complained to me.
The small restaurant is opened in the university, mainly for student business. She does everything early, dinner and supper. Xue Zhen is very hard and a little exhausted. When I saw their orphans and widows, I was very sympathetic and always wanted to share some for her. I often prepared breakfast for her in the morning and washed the milk for her. She was very moved. But our relationship has always been within the scope of the boss and the staff, and there has never been any ambiguity. After all, she is 20 years older than me, and I am the same age as her son.
We crossed that line of defense
The breakthrough of my relationship with Xuezhen took place in the summer vacation of that year. The school closed for the summer vacation. I planned to go back to my hometown, but Xuezhen asked me to help her bring things home. Her home is in the suburbs, a little far away. It's really difficult for her to bring so many things back home. I hesitated for a while and went with her.
After taking Xuezhen home, I went back to my hometown. Xuezhen was afraid that I would not come back, so she deducted part of my salary according to the industry rules. Soon after I went back, Xue Zhen's telegram came after me. She asked me to go to her as soon as possible. I don't know what happened, but I came back. Originally, she found me a job, that is, to work in her original factory, and she returned to work in the factory.
Xuezhen's family has a 50-60 square meter house with two rooms and one living room. Those days, I stayed at her house and slept in her son Yanfeng's room. When Yanfeng was at home, I would live with him. When he was not at home, I would live alone. Everything is normal.
When I went to and from work, I took her by bike. Neighbours and colleagues in her factory all pointed at us, not saying bad things, but trying to match us and how to match. I was embarrassed when I heard it, but Xue Zhen was very helpful. She often flashed a happy blush on her face, which made me a little worried.
One night, Xuezhen said that she was afraid and asked me to go to her room to accompany her. I had to go over and lay down on a mat on the ground. When she fell asleep, I crept out.
I have a hunch that Xuezhen will do something sooner or later. Sure enough, one night a few days later, she came to my room again and said she wanted to watch TV. She didn't leave until late... We finally had a relationship.
We're married
After my relationship with Xuezhen, I was in a very complex mood and didn't know what to do. After all, I was only 22 years old at that time and had never experienced such a thing. After that, she followed Xuezhen's arrangement.
She immediately took me on a tour from Yichang to Sichuan. In fact, tourism is secondary. Her main purpose is to take me to see her family and listen to their opinions. She has a eldest sister in Yichang, a second sister in her hometown in Sichuan, and a third sister in Wuhan. Her parents live with the third sister.
In Yichang and Sichuan, Xuezhen's two sisters were surprised to see me, but they didn't disagree, saying that as long as Xuezhen felt good. When she came back from Sichuan, Xuezhen also went to have her hair permed, which made her look more energetic. I know that she wants to close the gap between us in appearance.
Gulo took out a photo, which was taken by Xuezhen 11 years ago. She had her hair freshly permed at a scenic spot along the way. She wore a red dress and a happy smile on her face. It really looked more energetic. It was not the same as another photo taken a few years ago.
After our trip, Yan Feng, Xuezhen's son, had learned about me and Xuezhen from the neighbors in the neighborhood. He was very angry and asked me to get out of the city. He also ran to his aunt and grandparents to complain. Xuezhen's parents didn't object. They said it was up to Xuezhen to decide, but her third sister objected. She said that the age difference was too big. She was afraid that I was looking for Xuezhen's money. She also said frankly that it was OK to be a lover without getting married. Xuezhen said that she had no money to pay for. She didn't worry about me paying for her money. She only paid for my people and treated her well.
Snow Jane and I went to apply for a marriage certificate after the Spring Festival.
I stumbled all the way
After our marriage, we have been opening restaurants in the city and working hard for our livelihood.
Later, the logistics department of the university underwent a major reform, and the front door was transformed. Our front door was gone, so we closed down and went home. After two years of rest, in 2002, we went out to open a restaurant around Zhuodaoquan. In 2003, Yan Feng was going to get married. Xue Zhen went back to prepare for her son's wedding. I stayed in the city alone to do business until the second half of 2004. Since then, I have been working as a cook.
The conflict between Xuezhen and me began with his son's marriage and birth. Xuezhen dotes on her son, leaving everything to him. I can't listen to my opinions at all. Let me talk about buying a house, buying furniture, buying electrical appliances, decorating a house, and so on, but what I say is just a breeze in the ear.
Soon after I had a grandson, there were more contradictions. Xuezhen dotes on her grandson even more. She always gives her children unhealthy food whatever she wants. When I talk about her, she thinks that I love money and treat me as an outsider. Then I live with my son and daughter-in-law. I am only one year older than my son and daughter-in-law. I am always embarrassed. It is often their family who talk and laugh. I can't get in. I am completely like an outsider.
I felt lonely as never before. I had been running a restaurant outside and busy making a living. Every day was full of time. I didn't have much communication with Xuezhen. This problem didn't arise. Now, after living with their family, I realized that communication between them is a big problem.
Although I am the same age as Xuezhen's son and daughter-in-law, I still do my part as Xuezhen's husband. Every Spring Festival and Qingming Festival, I accompany her to visit her dead husband's grave. Life is so tasteless and bumpy.
I just want a divorce
But in the past two years, the conflict between me and Xuezhen has become more and more serious, to the extent of divorce.
The year before last, I worked in a restaurant opened by a distant relative of Xuezhen's family. The relative was a divorced woman in her 40s. Xuezhen was always paranoid because she didn't follow me because she was at home with her grandson. She suspected that I had an affair with the female relative and often made trouble without reason. Once, she ran to my place to make trouble and smashed my things. I was helpless.
I had to ask Yan Feng to persuade her. Although Yan Feng opposed me to marry his mother before, his attitude towards me was also good. He was polite, but he didn't call me anything. If he had to call me, he would call me by his name. I didn't care about anything. I thought it was good.
Once again, Xuezhen made a lot of trouble. I decided to divorce. I would rather go out of the house clean, as long as she gives me a free body. However, Xuezhen resolutely disagrees and always hides her marriage certificate.
In the Spring Festival of 2008, I still took the overall situation into consideration to spend the New Year with her. After the 15th day of the first month, I went out to visit my classmates in Beijing and Zhengzhou all the way. First, I wanted to find something to do, and second, I wanted to leave Xuezhen. Later, when I returned to Wuhan, I still didn't dare to tell Xuezhen where I was working, for fear that she would come and make trouble.
Every time I call back to discuss divorce with Xuezhen, she scolds and disagrees. I communicated with her sisters, who said that you should negotiate the divorce.
So far, we have been divorcing for more than a year, but we haven't got any results yet. It's painful for me to drag on like this. At present, I work as a salesperson for about 1500 yuan a month. I have never worried about my job. It is this marriage that makes me miserable. I don't know what to do.
Curio looked sad. I asked him, "Have you ever had love with her? Have you ever considered having a baby?" He thought for a while, and said, "There should be no love. She has been busy making a living, and there is no communication. In 1997, she was pregnant with a baby, because she took the contraceptive pill before, and didn't dare to have that baby, so she knocked it off."
I asked again, "Have you never seen her in your subconscious? After all, you are so different in age." He said without thinking, "She has no money, and in these years, money has never been in my hands. It is all under her control. She is not very considerate to me. She always means to treat me as an outsider. I want to learn driving and computer, but she won't take money to let me learn."
Over the years, I still have a problem that I haven't dared to tell my family about the age of Xuezhen. After 10 years of marriage, I only took Xuezhen back to my hometown three times. In recent years, Xuezhen has become more old. I didn't take her back. I admit I have vanity. But on the other hand, it is also because Xuezhen is not good to my family. My mother came to Wuhan to see a doctor. I asked Xuezhen to go to the hospital, but she refused, let alone received home for two days. This makes me very cold.
Until recently, my family didn't know the exact age of Xuezhen, which was a great blow to my parents. They also hoped that I would divorce as soon as possible.
Postscript
At the age of 82 and 28, white hair and red face have become a human story. Hefa said to Hongyan, "You are the last gift from God.". At the age of 33 and 53, the young husband and the old wife became an awkward marriage that was difficult to leave.
Don't talk about fairness and injustice. Sometimes, people are different from each other, men are different from women, love is different from love, and marriage is different from marriage.
Everyone is equal, that is the rule of law. In front of God, you and I are equal. That is the rebellious Jane Eyre. How many Jane Eyre are there? That one has become the immortal image of classic literature, let us look forward to it forever.
Xuezhen has the right to pursue marriage, and Gulo's courage is also good. But Gulo was still young and imagined life too simple. Maybe there was no idea in his ignorance. Perhaps, he and she had not thought that some distance could not be crossed.
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