Post Date December, 03 2023
One of the coping strategies is not to resort to self deception
Gong Lei, male, 34 years old, raw material procurement
After the age of 30, men have a mature foundation and more opportunities for work and socializing
I have had a lack of firmness in my stance. Once my wife discovered it, I became a thief and lost my courage. But since then, she has always lacked a sense of security and is afraid of losing me. In fact, she doesn't know that I am even more afraid of losing this family than she is
I have gradually discovered the truth from every time I am interrogated and used to track my phone. As the saying goes, "Confession is lenient, resistance is strict." Don't wait until you are suspected to explain or refute again. You should report your thoughts and explain the latest situation to the "organization". Only by actively disclosing it can you gradually alleviate her concerns and distrust
I am afraid of my wife, not afraid of her hitting me or scolding me. I am afraid that she will implicate her because of me and make everyone unhappy. After that, no matter how many heterosexual encounters I have, I will speak to her transparently and publicly, and she will not daydream
Response strategy 2: Don't say anything even if you kill someone
Xiaofei Female 27 Year Old Brand Promotion
My female colleague, Red Apricot, has been in a state of self blame ever since she stepped out of the wall. She thinks that her husband is usually tolerant of herself and feels that she must understand and forgive herself when she reveals this secret. The result is not optimistic. The past harmony between the two is gone forever, and they are still in a struggle of separation and integration. As soon as he thinks about her good relationship with others, he cannot bear the situation
I think emotions are actually very fragile, like porcelain. Once broken, no matter how well the cracks are patched up later, the female colleague is very idealistic. She believes that her sincerity can move her husband, and her human mistakes will inevitably be forgiven by him. But she forgot to think from her husband's perspective that she fell in love with someone else, even if she only denied him for a whole night. No one likes to be denied, let alone someone she loves
Proactively telling the truth to the other person may be honest, but it is absolutely cruel. It seems to completely shatter a person's imagination. To carry on love to the end, some white lies are needed, which can save the straw of the relationship
Strategy 3: Avoiding Details
Jin Enjun, female, 30-year-old online editor
The relationship between the two will encounter external temptations and tests along the way. To handle the crisis well, it is necessary to calm down and be honest with each other so as to understand the reasons for the infidelity. Perhaps one party is indifferent and the other party is being taken advantage of by others? Perhaps you become obsessed with novelty? Perhaps there is not enough communication and tacit understanding between us?
If his or her relationship with that person is not yet over, it's better to give him or her a deadline so that she can have ample time to think clearly and make clear decisions. As for the other details of their relationship, the more they don't know, the more helpful it is to solve the problem, because the questioning party often doesn't ask these questions out of interest and mistakenly understands them for themselves. The more they can achieve inner peace, and then they will inevitably fall into a vicious cycle The more you know, the more you suffer
The party being questioned often attributes part of the reason for their betrayal to the other party pointing out that they do not tolerate the issue of wanting to leave in order to alleviate their sense of guilt. In fact, the more arguments they have, the further apart they become from each other
Coping strategy 4: The fewer informed people, the better
Samuel, male, 28 years old, investment management
The 'family scandal should not be exposed'. Whether it happens to men or women, it is best not to let more irrelevant outsiders know. The more people you know, the more unfavorable it is for the relationship between the two to heal
When you confide in your family and friends about your sadness and helplessness, they often take your side and share a biased hatred or unite as one, making it impossible to come up with constructive solutions, which only adds fuel to the fire; And afterwards, they can "broadcast the radio" to spread the stories that happened between you widely
If two people do not coordinate well and need to rely on external forces, it is best to seek the help of an emotional expert because professional advice can make impartial analysis and judgments, and can quickly and effectively find a solution
